What is femininity, how to develop it in yourself? Why do some women attract men and others not? Femininity is the ability to create an atmosphere of love around yourself. This is the ability to inspire a man and motivate him to action. This is respect for yourself and the people around you. How to develop feminine qualities in yourself?
There are two ways. The first is external transformation. But this is just the beginning. It must necessarily entail a deeper awareness of femininity. The second way is to start with internal change, which will lead to external transformation.
What is femininity?
The concept of femininity is so streamlined and elusive that it is difficult to articulate. This is something attractive that makes you stand out from the crowd and makes you turn around. Femininity is the sum of all feminine qualities. It is reflected in eyes and gestures, smile and speech, gait and clothing.
Is femininity given at birth? Or can it be developed over the course of a lifetime? What adds femininity? Grace, softness, charm attract the attention of men. It’s a pleasure to communicate with such a special person. Next to her, the best qualities of the stronger sex awaken - the ability to protect, protect from harm, and help. Such women radiate warmth, light and special energy in which you can bask as in the rays of the sun.
Inner manifestations of femininity
You can grow gorgeous hair, wear airy dresses, but be tough and categorical. You can meet a girl in jeans and combat boots - and endlessly enjoy her natural femininity. How to develop these qualities in yourself? A woman's true femininity comes from her inner sense of self.
Firstly, this sincerity. The ability to easily and simply give compliments and emphasize the merits of other people. Femininity is the absence of envy and hostility. This is the ability to present the most unpleasant truth gently and politely. Sincerity is also necessary towards yourself. Honesty in one's thoughts and actions is not available to every woman. But sincerity does not mean lack of tact. It is not always worth telling the truth; not everyone needs it. Sincerity is a living, emotional expression of feelings and thoughts. This is a combination of childish spontaneity, spontaneity and adult tact.
Secondly, this self-esteem. Respect and love for yourself, your body, your needs. Awareness of oneself as an individual, and not an addition to a man. At the same time, flexibility of character, the ability to adapt to life circumstances. It is worthy to behave in the most unsightly situations, without provoking them. Self-esteem is directly related to self-confidence and a calm attitude towards external evaluative opinions. This is the inner integrity of character.
Third, emotional inconsistency. This is by no means an instability of behavior when a woman is thrown from one emotion to another, from screams to hysteria, from tears to laughter. Excessive manifestations of temperament are always unpleasant and have a depressing effect on others. A slight degree of inconsistency attracts men. This is an amazing property of women, with their illogicality and emotionality, to attract sympathy to their side. Disarm with soft unpredictability, bewitch with gentle energy. Masculinity and femininity differ in that the first always acts within the given framework of social rules, and the second - contrary to them, captivating with natural spontaneity.
Masculine and feminine qualities
In psychology there are concepts of masculine and feminine qualities. The division of male and female roles is especially clearly visible in the Domostroevsky way of life. However, it is difficult to meet a man who has only masculine qualities, or a woman with only a set of feminine traits. Usually these essences are intertwined in a person's character to a greater or lesser extent.
Masculinity is result-oriented, competitive and ambitious. Femininity - consensus building, emotional connections and caring. For self-realization in society, both qualities are necessary. There are psychological tests that can help you determine your dominant traits.
Masculine qualities
- Confidence.
- Steadfastness.
- Aggressiveness.
- Fearlessness.
- Feeling of freedom.
- The desire to dominate.
- Adventurism.
- Determination.
- The ability to focus on one thing.
These are general characteristics. They are not expressed in appearance (a courageous voice or emphasized authority), but are embedded in character and behavior. The ability to learn something new, to search for prey or knowledge - this is the main male purpose. Feminine is preservation, strengthening. Therefore, it is so important to develop in girls the ability to calmly, with the desire to take care of the house, to create comfort and coziness.
Feminine qualities
- Softness.
- Compliance.
- Sacrifice.
- Willingness to help.
- Submission.
- Compassion.
- Intuitiveness of behavior.
- Accuracy.
- Passivity.
- Ability to do several things at the same time.
Female femininity implies a combination of masculine and feminine qualities. At the same time, it has a large share of lightness and flexibility. Possesses inner creativity and inspiration. This is the ability to be soft, but also not to give yourself offense. Do not take a masculine position, do not enter into conflict with the stronger sex. Realize your creative potential based on their positions as women.
What adds femininity?
The feeling of happiness and harmony in herself allows a woman to be calm and peaceful. This is a combination that attracts others. A woman who loves herself, knows how to give and receive love, creates an aura of comfort around herself. Such a lady knows how to compromise, adapt to her man and circumstances. Feels light and relaxed, allowing himself to be for the stronger sex. She respects and loves men.
Femininity is the ability to come to the rescue and the ability to accept it from others. This is trust and ease of communication. and unobtrusive sexuality. This is inner well-being and a state of comfort.
Such a woman has a sense of humor, radiating positivity and good mood around her. She is polite and has self-respect. Takes care of himself, his body.
Development of femininity
Education and society can suppress femininity. The desire to make a career, raise and raise children, many worries and problems make a woman strong, inflexible, capable of going ahead towards her goal. These are masculine qualities, and by accepting them, a woman enters into an internal conflict with the stronger sex. She becomes not a companion and ally, but an adversary who must be overcome. Therefore, when entering the male path, a woman opposes herself to a man.
It is necessary to develop femininity, because the representative of the fair half of humanity needs affection and support, care and love. Realization of oneself as a woman is possible subject to certain rules. If your character has more masculine qualities, then you can change them by starting with femininity.
The penchant for roles makes the weaker sex multifaceted and changeable. By working to transform her appearance, a woman is able to change her image. Therefore, it is quite possible in the development of femininity to start with external changes, which are gradually reduced to internal changes.
Appearance
Symbol of femininity - long hair and dresses. You don't have to grow your braids or have elaborate hairstyles. But you should get rid of crew cuts and the like. If there is no inner femininity, such hairstyles will make you look like a man. Soft curls, frivolous curls or straight ones will add charm. You don't have to do your hair every day. But clean and healthy hair is a must.
Flowing dresses or formal skirts will emphasize the femininity of the figure and add mystery. Heels - even low ones - will introduce fragile instability into your gait and visually lengthen your legs.
You should not put too much makeup on your face or drench yourself in perfume. A slight understatement of the smell will make men come closer. It is better not to overuse cosmetics, but to prefer a healthy complexion and the radiance of a snow-white smile.
Movements
Beauty and femininity consist of grace and grace of movements and gestures. It is possible, without having flexibility, to have a smooth gait. You should not allow yourself sudden, masculine movements. Do not wave your arms when walking and do not pace your steps. A light, dancing gait attracts attention.
The soft, smooth movements of the hands are mesmerizing. Unhurried gestures, calm turns of the head, combined with a smile, will attract hearts faster than harshness and impetuosity. And well-groomed hands and feet (with an unobtrusive manicure and pedicure) will add attractiveness.
Communication
The ability to speak and listen beautifully makes a woman a pleasant conversationalist. Smooth, unhurried speech is as important as the timbre of your voice. You should not allow yourself loud notes, shrill sounds. Loud, clear speech is more reminiscent of a commander. What adds charm to femininity? Slightly muffled voice. Velvety timbre, expressive intonations. Calm facial expressions, a slight smile during communication, and tact will emphasize the feminine principle.
You should pay attention to the culture of speech, avoid rude and harsh formulations. When communicating, look at the interlocutor, listen carefully, and be sincerely interested in the topic of conversation. Express your disagreement kindly and avoid categorical assessments.
- Learn to surround yourself with an atmosphere of peace, happiness, harmony with the world.
- Allow yourself to be weak and helpless, take your time, don’t fuss.
- Don’t overload yourself with work, remember about women’s self-realization in the family.
- Be able to act with dignity, self-respect, and not spend your life waiting.
- Take care of your health and attractiveness.
- Radiate caring, kindness, gentleness, sensuality, love.
- Feel your specialness, uniqueness.
- Do not compete with a man, do not blame and do not look for the guilty.
The main thing in any woman is her femininity, which attracts men like a magnet. Probably every representative of the fair sex has heard these words. But how to be feminine? What kind of woman can be called such? Let's look at 4 signs of femininity:
- Femininity does not argue with men. She accepts his decisions and agrees with his opinion, or knows how to gently and without pressure insist on her point of view. A woman should give a man the opportunity to develop, to be who he is.
- Femininity idolizes a man and never humiliates him. Constant admiration for his beloved leads to the fact that he, full of pride, will achieve almost anything for the sake of his soul mate.
- Femininity knows how to be weak and defenseless. As a result, her chosen one becomes stronger morally.
- Femininity exists perfectly with a career, only in turn. The main task is to be able to switch from one state to another. At work, a woman is alone, but at home there should be another: soft, gentle, loving, attentive and caring.
How to become feminine?
Previously, the ability to be a woman was passed down from generation to generation. Now, unfortunately, we have lost a lot. Women have become ashamed of themselves and are concerned about the question “How to become feminine?”; some, on the contrary, have become overly relaxed.
Femininity is inherent in us by nature, you just need to be able to feel it. Accept your essence, then men will be crazy about you. Who would dare to offend a fragile, defenseless girl? No, seeing this, the representatives of the stronger sex will have a desire to protect her, to keep her safe.
Remember, we women make men. You need to be wise and feminine. Such women evoke strong feelings in men; they do not leave such women.
If you don’t feel the signs of femininity in yourself, it doesn’t matter, every girl can develop them!
- tolerance and willingness to make concessions,
- gentleness, courtesy and politeness,
- the ability to love unconditionally, which gives rise to the absence of claims and demands,
- external attractiveness, this lies in a woman’s ability to look like a woman (wear feminine clothes, jewelry),
- modesty (to a certain extent),
- handicrafts,
- the ability to cook deliciously,
- the ability to lovingly care for your home,
- goodwill towards all household members and everyone who comes to the house, hospitality,
- the ability to compliment everyone in your home, notice the good, respect and appreciate everyone,
- the ability to forgive for everything quickly and with all your soul,
- lightness, beauty of soul, perhaps passivity in many matters, but at the same time a good intellect is desirable so that it would be interesting to be with such a woman,
- dancing, singing, yoga.
On the other hand: femininity through the eyes of men
“I’ll try to describe how I see femininity. You can probably approach the answer systematically - divide the signs of femininity into groups (in behavior, in appearance, in character, how manifestations reflect on me, etc.), but I will write them down as they come to mind.
When I come into contact with femininity, new sensations appear in my body - somewhere between the neck and chest you begin to feel something like an air plug, which, dissolving, over time begins to spread with warmth throughout the body, turning into tenderness, a slight blush and some excitement. Some stupid activity is awakening. But my heart is very happy.
- Accuracy. Cleanliness. It's clear. Moreover, I can fully admit the inclusion of some absent-mindedness in appearance. For example, a ponytail on only one side of the head (it is only important to have this beauty turned towards the man).
- Of course, this is sensitivity. Attunement to the addressee, the recipient of this femininity. Some excitement. Of course, swagger is inappropriate here. The thread between a man and a woman must be constantly stretched.
— The ability to dissolve in a man, in an environment, in a situation. Here, of course, awareness is important. That awareness that I often really lack. I live a day and forget about it. A woman always remembers the context. Not only where we went, what the weather was like, and what clothes we were wearing. She remembers what happened the day before, with whom and on what topics they communicated, what was on her mind, what happened after the date, etc. I really like this in women.
- Aroma. And not necessarily perfume. It is important to feel the presence of a female body nearby with your nose. This is space.
— Unconditional respect for every man you meet. The ability to see the masculine in everyone is worth a lot.
— The ability to understand/accept a man is priceless.
- Playfulness. Sense of humor. The ability to laugh heartily and beautifully (i.e. not vulgarly). When a woman is capable of self-irony... it's a fairy tale!
— The ability to trust men. Understanding that a man straightens his shoulders only for a woman to cling to his chest...
- Ability to be in a relaxed state. Softness and smoothness of movements.
— The ability to share your beauty with the world (man, woman). Just being beautiful is not enough. It is important to be able to present your beauty to people. Probably, a positive outlook on life and some stateliness are needed here. Posture. It is very important not to sell your beauty (i.e. expecting to instantly receive something in return), but to give and share. People always feel this.
— The ability to be in a state of lightness and flight.
- The ability to love yourself, your body. Know the advantages of your appearance and unobtrusively emphasize them. I feel very delighted when I notice that a woman knows how to take care of her hands or knows how to choose her own shoes.
- The ability to be in a romantic state. Fantasy and daydreaming.
— Femininity is the ability to give any environment a state of coziness and comfort...
- It is very important that a woman treats her child as her friend, and not as an object of education...
— Femininity is when a woman knows how to selflessly create...
— The ability to build friendly relationships with women... and not be in the status of a sworn friend.
- Femininity is sexuality...
— Femininity is a developed and (regularly) in demand intuition.
— Femininity is flexibility and compromise. Femininity never argues. She's always right. She doesn't need to prove it. And if you feel that being right is not accepted, then this is a sign that little femininity has been shown, and it is important to show it - to walk away from the argument softly and beautifully.
— Femininity is, of course, an organic mystery. Here, probably, as with a sense of humor - we simply observe this trait as a consequence of the revelation of a certain level of femininity.
— Femininity is faith in the power of love.
“Femininity is the ability to constantly be in a state of love... And a heightened sensitivity to beauty and a sense of taste.”
Materials were partially used in the article “Signs of Femininity”
As paradoxical as it may sound, not every woman looks truly feminine, although many strive for this. If you believe that you also lack this quality, then if you wish, you can purchase it!
What should a feminine girl (woman) be like?
How to look to be feminine
As you know, before starting a conversation with a stranger, we make the first conclusions about him based on his appearance and manner of dressing. In general, even by briefly looking at a girl, you can understand whether she is feminine or not. So, what criteria are paramount? Figure, hair, skin In general, general grooming is important. A feminine and self-loving girl does not neglect taking care of her hair, skin and figure. This means that you should not have split ends, undyed hair roots or a dirty head. Your hair should shine with health and beauty. If it is difficult for you to keep your long hair in perfect shape, then you need to get a shorter haircut - whatever the length of your hair, it should look well-groomed. Regarding your figure, do not allow excess weight to appear - play sports and eat right. Undoubtedly, there are many attractive girls who, according to general criteria, are overweight, but at the same time look beautiful, feminine and impressive - this happens if the proportions are respected. If you just have clearly visible sides and belly, and there is no hint of a full bust and hips, then this is hardly attractive. It is also important to prevent the appearance of cellulite - in particularly advanced cases, it can be noticeable even through clothes! Of course, pay attention to the condition of the skin not only on the body, but also on the face. If you notice pimples or blackheads, do not try to cover them up with foundation first. The skin must be treated so as not to start the process, and then not have even more problems against this background. Definitely go to a dermatologist. Makeup and clothing style1) It is important not to overdo it with makeup and apply it according to the situation - during the day it should be barely noticeable, in the evening more colors are permissible. Choose tones according to your color type. For example, foundation should never be conspicuous or look like a “mask”. Choose it together with a consultant or a good makeup artist. In general, pay attention to makeup courses. Many girls are convinced that they do a great job applying makeup, but often this is just a subjective opinion. Perhaps you are categorically against makeup, believing that this only spoils your skin. However, even in this case, you should not neglect facial care - buy, at a minimum, a tonic and cream suitable for your skin type. Take time to care for your lips - use balms regularly. Keep an eye on the shape of your eyebrows - you can entrust this task to a specialist, or periodically lightly remove excess hairs yourself. 2) Don't chase the latest fashion trends. Of course, it is important to have at least a little knowledge of fashion so as not to look ridiculous, but don’t wear something that doesn’t suit you. If you see that tapered trousers categorically do not suit you, then you should not wear them, no matter how fashionable they may be. Give preference to dresses - after trying on many styles, you will probably be able to find the one that suits you perfectly. Well, and, of course, there’s no need to even remind you that dresses, like skirts, are the most feminine item of clothing. You should also pay attention to shoes and accessories. Choose sophisticated models in calm and delicate colors. Don't forget about good perfume - you shouldn't smell expensive aromas a mile away, but it will be good if people next to you smell a slight scent of some pleasant perfume coming from you.How real women behave
Openness Be friendly and open. Of course, this does not mean that you should dump all the information about yourself to the first person you meet, but try to forget about excessive affectation. Talk to people as if you were your good friends - make sure that your tone does not sound arrogant or sullen. After communicating with you, people should have a pleasant impression. Sincerity and modesty While being open, it is important to remain humble and tactful. Do not burden your interlocutor with unnecessary information if he does not show particular interest in the chosen topic of conversation. If a person is interested in some question that is known to you, and does not cross all personal boundaries, then try to give him the most sincere answer, without conveying unnecessary mystery. Also, do not try to be the center of attention, drowning out everyone around you with your stories. Sometimes it helps to prove yourself to be a good listener rather than a good storyteller. Behavior First of all, your behavior should not be provocative. Femininity is associated with ladies, and if you want to develop this quality in yourself, then you should feel and act like a lady. If you know that you have a loud voice, then watch how you speak - your speech should be calm and confident. Please note that many people are annoyed by loud voices, but their sense of tact does not always allow them to say so. Also, do not speak too quietly or almost in a half whisper, forcing people to listen to you - this may only be appropriate on an intimate date.How to develop femininity
Accept yourself and love yourself
Treat yourself with love and care. There are no perfect people, and you don't have to be either. You may have shortcomings, but absolutely everyone has them. If it seems to you that a person is ideal, then it means that he has simply learned to hide his imperfections, or his ideality is only your subjective opinion. Try to improve yourself, but don't demand too much from yourself. Pamper yourself more often with small pleasant purchases, interesting trips and meetings with your loved ones - this will allow you to be in a positive mood more often. When communicating, try not to get upset over trifles and not to take problems to heart - learn to take life lightly.Give thanks and praise
Whatever a man does for you, thank him for his help. Even if it is some small thing, and in fact you believe that it does not deserve special attention at all, your beloved will be pleased if you note his merits. Such behavior will become an additional motivation and incentive for him to achieve new achievements. If he remembers that any of his help and participation resonates with you and gives him positive emotions, he will strive for this again.Be gentle, smile
It is quite difficult for a gloomy girl to look feminine, even if she is dressed without any complaints. People generally associate femininity with kindness, inner light, and tenderness. It is important to develop all these qualities in yourself. Be friendly, polite and friendly with people - this will undoubtedly have a positive effect on your image.Don't raise your voice or swear
A feminine person does not swear or become hysterical. If she doesn’t like something, she becomes sad or even tries to get out of the conflict situation. Even if you find yourself in an unpleasant situation, and your interlocutor or interlocutors behave indecently, do not stoop to this level - try to “save face” and not proceed to unnecessary squabbles.Be a woman with a mystery
It is important to be able to maintain this line between openness and mystery. Be sincere with people, but leave a slight trail of mystery - there should not be too much of it, but a little intrigue will never harm a real woman.A worthy woman through the eyes of a man
Which women do men most often pay attention to?
Men most often pay attention to women who have certain qualities. Note that we may not be talking about all the qualities listed below, but about individual ones or their overwhelming number. beauty It is perhaps difficult to argue with the fact that predominantly men are individuals who are described as “loving with their eyes,” and it just so happens that many of them really like beautiful women. It is also important to clarify that each of them has their own idea of what a “beautiful woman” should be - some like miniature skinny women, others are crazy about tall and stately ladies. In general, there can be many variations. Sexuality Of course, a man will always pay attention to a sexy woman - it is important not to confuse it with vulgarity! Sexuality can manifest itself in many ways - in the timbre of a voice, a graceful figure, the curve of the shoulders, a glance, a flutter of eyelashes, a manner of speaking, and so on. Kindness There is no doubt that the stronger sex likes kind girls. In their potential companion, most men almost immediately begin to see the future mother of their children, but what should a mother be like in the understanding of many people? Affectionate, kind, understanding. Naturalness Of course, vulgarly dressed women attract the attention of not only men, but also women and children, but guys, as a rule, really like completely different people. You have a better chance of meeting a decent man if you go out not wearing “war paint”, but with neutral and neat makeup. Ease of character Nobody likes a bore, and, of course, men are no exception. The ideal woman, in their opinion, cannot be boring or grumpy - sometimes you don’t want to return home to such people. A man expects support and understanding from his life partner, and with a difficult character, this is not so easy to provide. Thrift Many men value comfort in the home and delicious food, and, of course, they like women who are able to provide this or strive for it. If a young man inadvertently finds out that you know how to cook complex and tasty dishes, then, most likely, your chances of attracting his attention will increase significantly. Mysteriousness This is not about secrecy, but some kind of light intrigue. It can also manifest itself in appearance. For example, a woman constantly wears her hair up, and a man involuntarily begins to fantasize about how she looks with her hair down. It can also relate to the past. For example, when asked how a woman spent her vacation, she sweetly replies with a slight smile: “Oh, I’ll tell you about that another time.” That is, it should be implied that nothing terrible is being hidden - on the contrary, there was some interesting incident in her life. However, it is also important not to overdo it.
Secrets of femininity of first ladies
Raisa Gorbacheva
Many people often associate the first ladies of the country with femininity. In the Soviet Union, she was Gorbachev's wife. If the previous first ladies of the country did not particularly think about how to look impressive and elegant, then for Raisa Maksimovna this was very important - she did not get lost against the background of Western wives of heads of state. Mikhail Sergeevich's wife was a slender woman who tried to dress elegantly, despite the fact that there was not much variety of outfits in the country. Despite the fact that she could afford dresses and suits from foreign designers, Gorbacheva preferred to sew outfits in domestic ateliers. So the limited choice did not bother the president’s wife at all, because having good taste, you can always hope for the help of a good tailor.Jacqueline Kennedy
John Kennedy's wife managed to gain a foothold in the public's memory no less than he himself. Jacqueline was very popular during the years of her life, and remains in the memory of many fashionistas to this day. The thing is that she was considered a real icon of style and elegance, and many girls continue to look up to her taste even now. It’s hard to say that Jacqueline was a recognized beauty by nature, but she managed to ensure that no one paid attention to her shortcomings, because she competently played them up, turning them into advantages. Mrs. Kennedy was never afraid to “stand out from the crowd” and show off her individuality. She liked exquisite headdresses and bold color combinations. She preferred strict and laconic outfits that fit her figure perfectly. Jacqueline also understood how important it was not to overdo it with jewelry, so she avoided excess in this matter - she wore a necklace, earrings, bracelets, etc. only when, in her opinion, it was really appropriate.
There is no more common concept than femininity, but try to really explain what it is? Here are some characteristics of femininity.
Compliance
This is the first and main feature of a feminine woman. She does not compete with a man for a place in the sun, at work, on the sofa, in an armchair, at the table. And if you compete, then you will never be called feminine, no matter what.
Why is it needed?
For a peaceful life with a man. Men always compete with each other. Even the best friends from time to time have fights, intellectual or sporting, to find out whether the male status of each has changed during the friendship, whether the strong are still strong, and the weak are weak.
And there is no more pleasant trait in a woman for a man than the absence of a challenge “to eternal battle.” A feminine woman does not suggest: “Let’s find out who knows Chinese porcelain better? Do you know thirty-three ways to raise Latvia’s industry to the heights of the Empire State Building?” She can discuss all these topics intelligently and competently. But only because she is interested, and not to show what a fool the man is. A feminine woman says to her husband: “I want to watch the melodrama A Month in Tuscany.” He's pushing for a spy movie. And she agrees. And they will watch the melodrama in a week. A man needs a woman’s compliance physically. Compliant means not dangerous. You can trust her and complain about life. The aggressive chairman of the board of an influential international foundation, who even smiles as if he had just devoured every living thing within a radius of forty meters, hears from his compliant wife: “My poor cold bunny.” And he melts from her tenderness and is not afraid to be “not a winner” with her. He knows: his feminine wife will not take advantage of his momentary weakness, will not seize power in the family, will not utter offensive barbs, will not reproach him for his vulnerability. She will only bring chamomile tea. And the need for sympathy and a place where you can be weak and behave like a child are required even by the most callous and strong man. And this soft and gentle compliance is for most men the apotheosis of femininity. Everything else comes with it.
Ability to adapt
A feminine woman chooses the style of behavior that suits the situation and the erotic image that her beloved man likes. She always keeps three or four images in her “stores”, which she uses as needed when communicating with different men. The need to adapt does not depress her, but amuses and entertains her. Why is it necessary?
To coexist peacefully with others, to win over people, to attract and retain the attention of a partner.
Femininity is those traits of character and appearance that distinguish us from men. They are approximately 70% determined by our genetics and hormonal background, and 30% by upbringing and living conditions.
Enthusiasm and zest for life
A feminine woman notices all sorts of beautiful little things and receives joy from them, which she shares with others. She likes the rain and sunset, she sees how beautifully an autumn leaf falls at her feet, she is not too lazy to bend down, pick it up and examine it in detail.
Why are they needed?
Estrogens make a woman sensitive and sentimental; she easily rejoices, laughs easily and easily cries from an excess of feelings. It is much more difficult for a man to experience happiness than for a woman - he has almost no estrogen and, in addition, produces fewer “neurotransmitters of joy.” And when there is a creature nearby who pulls his sleeve and says: “Look, what a sky, what a cloud, what a flower!” he looks and sees: “Yeah, it’s really not bad.” When a creature jumps with joy just because a man suggested going to a restaurant after a concert, it puzzles and fascinates him. He feels like a magician: once - he gave a person joy. And he rejoices himself.
The taste of life is a concept very close to enthusiasm. A feminine woman knows how to enjoy life and create comfort around herself. She is curious, interested in many things and involves everyone in something pleasant, including a man. And it becomes fun, comfortable and tasty for him to live with her. One of my friends married a woman because she knew how to make coffee. Of course, she had other advantages. But the thought of how great it was to live with her dawned on him when she was stirring freshly brewed coffee with chocolate and cinnamon in the Turk with a juniper stick before pouring it into cups. And she did it so enthusiastically that he asked her to marry him.
Ease
This is a very special trait that men rarely talk about, but which they feel very subtly. Feminine woman inspires. It does not burden you with illnesses, problems, suffering for all of humanity, or bad mood. And when she has PMS, she says: “I take a broom and fly into the forest. Please don't catch up. Today I'm having a bad day. I’ll be back by myself in the evening.” Trouble? She cried and moved on with her life. This is not frivolity, but ease, with the help of which a woman makes the most serious and difficult decisions and does not regret what did not come true.
Why is it necessary?
It is common for a man to get stuck on difficulties, problems and tasks. And only an easy woman is able to move him from his place, entertain and distract him, after which everything will become clearer in his head, his thoughts will fall into place and a successful solution will be found! Feminine ease carries a man through insoluble problems and allows him to forget about them.
Good memory for all good things
This implies the ability to collect bright memories and bestow a wonderful past on your man - and at the same time on all your loved ones.
Why is it necessary?
A feminine “memory for all good things” creates in others the feeling that they live among pleasant events and bright feelings. A man understands that it makes sense to try, give and create - they are remembered for a long time and highly valued. A feminine woman walks past a park bench and says to her lover: “Do you remember how we ate ice cream here last summer?” He doesn't remember anything, but he stops and listens carefully. She continues: “And then you kissed me and said that my lips were chocolate!” He smiles - it feels as if someone is scratching him behind the ear. A feminine woman will tell her husband in detail how he received his first promotion ten years ago. She remembers what color blanket he brought to the maternity hospital when he picked her up with her newborn daughter, and what music was played on the radio in the taxi. A feminine woman never itches: “I forgot our wedding day again!” She will simply remind you a week before the event how they once prepared for it together. And her husband will certainly congratulate her.
Intuitiveness
A feminine woman thinks less and feels more. Her head is not loaded with statements like “checked - no mines.” She notices a lot of unimportant but unusual nuances. And she doesn’t trust any tests or any technology if she has a premonition. She will go in a roundabout way and remain intact, but the one who moves in a straight line will suffer.
Why is it necessary?
To form an ideal tandem with a man - she notices, he analyzes. The advice of an intuitive woman never infuriates a man. Now, if she had said: “I decided that...” - he would have been furious: does she really think that she is able to decide more effectively than him! And when a woman says: “I feel that tomorrow is the time to send your scientific work to referees,” he understands that some internal navigator, which he does not have, told her about this. And he obeys without arguing. Or does not obey - but without aggression.
Unscrupulousness
Don't rush to be indignant. The fact is that for a feminine woman, a person is always more important than an idea. She can feel sorry for the enemy, because he is unfortunate, and respond with all her heart
to do a good deed by someone whom the whole world considers “walking evil” and marry him. And the choice - to do good for a loved one at the expense of making someone else feel bad, or not to do it - is elementary for her. Do!
Why is it necessary?
For the survival of her clan and family. Ideas and principles make it very difficult to survive. The need for a principled professor of mathematics in emigration will force him to work as a taxi driver - and he will die of a heart attack in the second year. And an economics teacher gets a job in a foreign land to care for sick old people and after a few years organizes a “nursery” for grandparents. It is difficult for a man to overcome his pride, his word given to someone. But it is difficult for a woman to see how her loved ones suffer, and for the well-being of the family, she will jump back and forth over her word a hundred times. Unscrupulousness is useful when choosing a partner. For everyone he is bad - but for her he is good. It’s scary to think how many men would remain unclaimed if a woman had her own inviolable principles!
Feminine appearance
It is provided by an excess of estrogens - female sex hormones that make us fertile, like rabbits, and turn the body into a kind of hourglass or pear. Skirts and dresses suit a feminine woman, she wears high-heeled shoes and looks light and slightly unstable - you want to grab her under the elbow and support her. She doesn't like to have her hair cut short. She often wears long hair, despite the demands of her friends to immediately rejuvenate herself by cutting her hair. Occasionally, he even makes a hairstyle out of them, which every man just wants to dishevel.
Not only advantages
There are also typical female flaws. These include the ability to throw tantrums, the habit of constantly being late and absent-mindedness.
Hysteria is sobs and screams designed to make a man meet a woman halfway and do as she wants. Men hate screaming and are afraid of women's tears. But they will never divorce a woman just because she periodically throws tantrums. For them, female hysteria is like summer bad weather: it’s disgusting to get caught in the rain, but summer is summer. A feminine woman, throwing a hysteria, always watches a man out of the corner of her eye, sees when he begins to get angry in earnest, and immediately turns off the hysteria: “And who just cried and banged his head against the wall?.. No, it’s not me!” She is inclined towards sweet compliance in order to use it to lure the promise she needs from her husband and maintain a good relationship with him.
Late
A woman because she has no sense of time. She always took care of the house, where one task smoothly leads to another. This man is programmed to control time - how long to sit in ambush, when to return home from hunting.
Absent-mindedness is the flip side of a woman's ability to soar and get carried away. I soared and read. And then you have to search for a cell phone for an hour and a half to find it in a shoe drawer. A man gets angry at a woman's absent-mindedness only when he himself suffers from it - she salted his coffee and put too much pepper in his salad.
Femininity and sexuality
These concepts are distant relatives. A feminine woman is always sexy and not always sexy.
Sex appeal is our attractiveness to men.
Sexuality is the strength of our physical attraction to them. The female hormone estrogen is responsible for sex appeal. Thanks to him, we speak in a gentle voice, move softly, and have a feminine figure. For sexuality - male testosterone, which is also produced in the female body. The more it is, the more we are attracted to men. Sometimes we have a lot of both hormones, and then we get a feminine, sexy and sexy Elizabeth Taylor. Sometimes a woman has a lot of estrogen, but little testosterone, and she attracts men, but does not feel passion for them herself. Such were Marilyn Monroe and Madame de Pompadour. Many men quickly became disillusioned with Marilyn Monroe, since, apart from compliance, she did not have a single pleasant feminine trait. And Madame de Pompadour was distinguished by her ease, knew how to entertain the king, and he loved her until her death, which he bitterly mourned.
Femininity and strength
They do not contradict each other at all. Lots of very feminine women have tremendous power. After all, strength is the ability to withstand the blows of fate and move forward towards the goal. The resilience of a feminine woman is simply incredible - she bends but does not break, dodges, slips and gets her way. Like Scarlett from Gone with the Wind. Or Sophia Loren, who studied acting, stubbornly destroyed the Neapolitan accent, withstood abuse and criticism for her affair with the married Carlo Ponti, waited for many years for his divorce, refused to have affairs with recognized handsome actors like Mastroianni and Delon - and waited for her happiness, came out married to her beloved and still royally beautiful.
How is her life?
It is easy for a feminine woman to get married and difficult to build a career. At work, she needs to behave in a way that is contrary to her nature - to push on, compete, insist on her own. Such behavior is alien to her - she doesn’t have enough testosterone to happily fight for the boss’s chair or crush her opponent to dust. Men take her not for a feminine woman, but for a “weak man.” Although these are two completely different concepts. And all the time they try to besiege him, not let him go further, put him in his place.
And it turns out to be a disaster: as a woman, they value you, adore you, feed you cakes and give you a coat. As an employee, they are constantly pushed into a corner. And solving this problem is difficult.
Some ladies manage to strengthen their character and become furious. And here I would like to quote Margaret Thatcher: “When a woman shows character, they say about her “tsuka.”
When a man shows character, they say about him “a great guy.” But some people don’t want to radically change themselves, since the masculinity acquired at work cannot be eradicated by anything. It will remain in the blood, inadvertently appear at home and disturb peace and quiet. There are two career options left. The first is to work in a women's team, which is usually more chaotic than men's, but also more tolerant. And the second is to build a professional career: a doctor, lawyer, designer, artist, in order to do your job and improve in it. Of course, you can stay at home - but this requires at least loving housekeeping. And it is not at all a fact that a feminine woman likes pots and a vacuum cleaner more than banking.
— When, with the help of manipulation, you want to show and prove to a man who is in charge. This includes comparing your husband to other men, humiliating a man. Often it is this behavior that drives a man out of the house or makes him raise his hand to you. No one can humiliate a man “better” than a woman. Any woman masters this skill perfectly.
— Female egoism (I will devote a separate article to this, subscribe to the newsletter so as not to miss it ). When we do not ask and are not interested in a man’s opinion, in our decisions we confront him with a fact. This applies to repairs, recreation, shopping, having children. We neglect his interests and hobbies. And also when we rely on our career, on our own achievements and successes.
- Talk about independence, women's rights, that slavery ended. Understand one thing: if you behave like a woman and convey respect and gratitude to your husband, then the man will also behave with you tenderly, delicately and treat you like a flower and a jewel.
We always have a choice - to continue to behave the way we want, as we are used to, or to master feminine behavior and feminine qualities. But we must always remember how our unfeminine behavior can end.
A man always sabotages un-feminine behavior!
Options to choose from:
- harshness, rudeness, shouting;
- orders, rigidity, anger;
- assault;
- silence;
- indifference to his wife, children and family life, self-withdrawal;
- resistance to any of your initiatives;
- lying on the sofa, avoiding male responsibilities;
- reluctance to be at home, friends, garage, work;
- betrayal, lies;
- alcohol;
- computer games;
- lack of success and earnings.
A man needs a woman and if he doesn’t get this energy at home, he looks for it on the side, not necessarily with his mistress, computer games are also good, there he feels like a winner, and this is how he gets his self-realization. A man needs a prize and appreciation. But if you are BIG and IMPORTANT, then you cannot give it.
And we return again to feminine and feminine behavior. And also to growing up.
Adult feminine behavior says only one thing: that you are interested in marriage and in a happy relationship.
What if you behave differently?
Tatyana Dzutseva
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