Heal your life full version. The healing powers are within us

Louise Hay

Heal yourself

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Introduction

Many of us, after briefly viewing this work, will immediately imagine what hard work they will have to do in order to get rid of their old, ingrained habits and addictions that often complicate our lives. I do not believe that a person’s refusal to give up a number of negative habits and addictions, or changing himself, is “work”, that this process must necessarily be difficult, painful or painful. In my opinion, it can be a very interesting and exciting adventure.

Therefore, I dedicate this work to those adventurers who are in each of us. You go in search of real treasures. The negative habits and addictions that have taken root in you are what you have to study as best as possible and what you want to get rid of as quickly as possible. And underneath them will open a huge layer of treasures, hitherto hidden from your eyes.

Try to find all the beauty hidden in you. Improve your health. Fill your life with love. Finally find freedom and happiness. After all, you deserve it. You truly deserve it. And I will try my best to help you.

You are on the path to your inner enlightenment. By gaining inner freedom, you thereby contribute to improving the general condition of our entire planet.

Try to concentrate your attention exclusively on those thoughts that support and feed you with their energy.

Louise Hay

Basic Spiritual Healing Techniques

I crave change.

It talks about what changes you can make in your life to noticeably improve it. I know perfectly well what each of us dreams of - to change everyone and everything around us. To improve your own life, you want everyone with whom you interact in one way or another to change - mother, father, boss, boyfriend, girlfriend, brother, sister, lover, landlord, neighbor, priest, and even government officials. departments. However, this way you are unlikely to significantly improve your life. After all, in order to make noticeable changes in your life, first of all you must change yourself. As soon as you change, all the people around you will immediately change their attitude towards you.

Think about whether you want to change yourself?

If you answer this question in the affirmative, then together we can significantly improve your life by achieving all your goals. In this case, all that is required of you is to make some changes in your own thoughts and free yourself from some of your beliefs. Does this seem too simple to you? Most likely, you are even convinced of this. However, in reality, the path to improving your own life may not be very simple. Below we will look at a number of beliefs that people most often encounter in various life situations. If your beliefs are positive, then be sure to support them, trying in every possible way to expand and strengthen them. If you understand that they are negative, negative, then through joint efforts we can quickly get rid of them.

My life is an excellent example of the changes that can happen to a person after he changes his own views. Since childhood, I had the opportunity to experience need and poverty, as a result of which I was a very downtrodden child, with extremely low self-esteem and a number of other serious psychological problems. But in just a short time, I went from being the “ugly duckling” I felt like to being a well-known, popular woman who dedicated her entire life to helping other people. I no longer experience pain or suffering. I managed to create a wonderful, happy life for myself. And you can follow my example in this.

I encourage you to be as gentle and attentive as possible while doing the exercises below. Some people, trying to change their lives for the better, experience serious difficulties, while others find such change relatively easy. Be aware of all the efforts you put into this. Keep in mind that your newly formed beliefs may be separated from your old, long-held beliefs by some transition period. You may vacillate between your old and newly formed beliefs for some time. Despite this, you should not despair and be disappointed in your abilities. Your self-love and self-confidence can provide invaluable support in this case. Provide yourself with such support every time you start exercising - it will give you additional strength, energy and, most importantly, self-confidence.

If you regularly and consistently perform the suggested exercises, you can quickly achieve the desired results. However, you can benefit yourself greatly even if you do just one exercise a month. Organize your classes the way that suits you best. The exercises proposed here will help you get a lot of new information about yourself that is still hidden from your eyes. With this information, you will be able to make your choices and change your life for the better. With every new choice you make, you are planting fresh seeds into the fertile soil of your consciousness. The seeds you plant need a certain amount of time to germinate and continue to grow. Remember: having planted a seed in the ground, you should not hope that an apple tree will immediately grow. In the same way, your activities will not always lead to immediate results.

I recommend that you work on sections separately. Try to highlight the section that is most relevant to you at the moment. When performing the exercises suggested in it, pay special attention to your feelings and sensations. Look through all the sections from beginning to end once and indulge in the thoughts and memories that come flooding back for a while. After this, return to the section that interests you and try to gradually complete the exercises suggested in it. After that, turn to the other sections and complete all the exercises suggested in them.

I recommend doing all the exercises regardless of whether you have problems in this area or not. The results obtained will surprise you a lot. If problems and difficulties arise while considering a particular section, you can perform the exercises proposed in it several times. In addition, you can come up with a series of your own exercises that you can then try to complete.

In some cases, it is useful to have handkerchiefs on hand during such activities. Allow yourself to carefully examine your entire past life and, if necessary, remember something sad, cry a little. Tears are a very powerful river of life, bringing with them renewal and cleansing.

Now I would like to take a closer look at the beliefs that underlie my philosophy.

1. Life is really very simple. Everything we give to the people around us inevitably comes back to us. In my opinion, we ourselves are responsible for everything, both good and bad, that happens to us. All thoughts that visit our consciousness, one way or another affect our future life. Each of us shapes our own lives under the influence of thoughts passing through our minds and under the influence of spoken words.

Our beliefs are those ideas and thoughts that we believe to be true. What we think about ourselves, people around us soon begin to think about us. What we believe can significantly expand and enrich our perception of the world. Every day can bring us excitement, joy, hope or, conversely, sadness, additional experiences, even pain. Two people living in the same world under the same circumstances can experience life completely differently. What helps us move from one world to another? I am convinced that such movement is carried out solely due to our own beliefs. By wanting to change our own beliefs, we can significantly improve our lives.

Regardless of our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us, we must always remember that these beliefs are just our thoughts, and thoughts can change. You may not agree with some of the statements (affirmations) I offer in this book. Some of them may seem alien or even scary to you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Only those statements with which you agree and accept will become part of your consciousness. You may think that some of the proposed methods are too simple or even naive and stupid, as a result of which you do not want to use them on yourself. I ask you only one thing: try to follow the recommendations they offer at least once.

Louise Hay's book "Heal Your Life" is a popular psychology guide to improving all areas of your life. The purpose of this work is to correct the reader’s negative thinking and rid him of stereotypes. First of all, the book was written for those who experienced a difficult childhood, often felt unhappy and now live their lives without interest or love for it. Anyone who considers themselves unworthy and bad, who is unlucky with work and in their personal life, needs to read this manual at least once.

Louise Hay's childhood was full of psychological trauma. She lived in poverty, suffered beatings from her father and watched him beat her mother. As a teenager, she had to face a drug problem and suffer from addiction. Despite this, she did not sink to the social bottom, she immediately became a successful model, and then a successful writer. The author wrote this book based on her life experience, thanks to which she was able to overcome all difficulties. By changing her thinking, Louise Hay was even once cured of cancer without medication. Positive affirmations influence the way you think. The way of thinking directly affects a person's life. Because with the help of thoughts we ourselves shape our lives. A person has the power to choose his own thoughts and that is what this book teaches.

Healing your life is easy and does not require a lot of money or special medications. All you need is self-love for this. Loving yourself is sometimes the hardest job. But this is possible thanks to this manual from the incredible and strong woman L. Hay.

Life is very simple. What we give is what we receive. I believe that everyone, including me, is 100% responsible for all events in our lives, both the good and the worst. Our every thought literally creates our future. Everyone creates events in life with the help of thoughts and feelings. The thoughts we think literally create everything we experience in life. We ourselves cause this or that situation in life, and then we waste our energy scolding another person for our worries and failures. We ourselves are the source of our own experiences, the surrounding reality and everything else in it. On the other hand, having established harmony and balance in our minds, we begin to find the same in life. Which sentence best describes you? “People in this world are trying to hurt me.” “Everyone is trying to help me solve my problems.” What we believe becomes our reality. We choose our thoughts and what we believe. Our subconscious mind perceives everything that we take for granted. And you have millions of choices about what to think. When we realize this, it makes sense to start thinking: “Everyone is trying to help me” instead of “People are hurting me.” The forces of the Universe never judge or criticize us. They accept us as we are. And then they reflect our beliefs automatically. If you prefer to think that you are almost alone and that no one loves you, then this is exactly what you will get in your life. However, if you prefer to think that “Love is everywhere in the world, and I love and am loved,” and repeat this phrase as often as possible, then this is exactly what you will experience. Many wonderful people will unexpectedly come into your life, and those who already love you will love you even more. At a young age, we learn about life from the reactions of adults. If you had to live with people who were not very happy, angry or felt guilty, then you learned to perceive yourself and the world around you negatively. “I never do anything right,” “It’s my fault,” “If I’m angry, then I’m a bad person” are some of your constant thoughts. And such thoughts create a life of disappointments. As we grow up, we tend to recreate the emotional environment of our childhood. It's neither good nor bad, right or wrong, we just know what the words "like home" mean. In our personal relationships, we often recreate the relationship we had with our mother or father. Think about how often you have had a lover or boss who is exactly like your father or mother. We treat ourselves the same way our parents treated us. We scold and punish ourselves the same way our parents scolded and punished us. We can almost hear the words they used on such occasions. If we were loved when we were children, then as adults we love ourselves too and in the same way. "You can never do anything right." "It's your fault." How often do you say these words to yourself? "You are beautiful". "I love you". How often do you say such words to yourself?

HOW TO HEAL YOUR LIFE

My some thoughts:

1. We take 100% responsibility for all our actions.

2. Our every thought creates our future.

3. The starting point of strength is always in the present moment.

4. Everyone, without exception, suffers from feelings of guilt and self-hatred.

5. Everyone thinks about themselves: “I’m not good enough.”

6. Everything is in thought, and thought can be changed.

7. Hidden resentment, anger, criticism of others and oneself, guilt are the most harmful emotions for health.

8. Complete release from accumulated resentment or anger cures cancer.

9. When we truly love ourselves, our life is wonderful.

10. We must free ourselves from the past and forgive everyone without exception (including ourselves).

11. We must learn to live in the present moment.

12. Self-acceptance and approval of your actions is the key to lasting change.

13. We and only we ourselves create the so-called “disease” in our body.

WHAT I BELIEVE

Life is very simple. What we give is what we receive.

I believe that everyone, including me, is 100% responsible for all events in our lives, both the good and the worst. Our every thought literally creates our future. Everyone creates events in life with the help of thoughts and feelings. The thoughts we think literally create everything we experience in life.

We ourselves cause this or that situation in life, and then we waste our energy scolding another person for our worries and failures. We ourselves are the source of our own experiences, the surrounding reality and everything else in it. On the other hand, having established harmony and balance in our minds, we begin to find the same in life.

Which sentence best describes you?

“People in this world are trying to hurt me.”

“Everyone is trying to help me solve my problems.”

What we believe becomes our reality. We choose our thoughts and what we believe. Our subconscious mind perceives everything that we take for granted. And you have millions of choices about what to think. When we realize this, it makes sense to start thinking: “Everyone is trying to help me” instead of “People are hurting me.” The forces of the Universe never judge or criticize us. They accept us as we are. And then they reflect our beliefs automatically. If you prefer to think that you are almost alone and that no one loves you, then this is exactly what you will get in your life.

However, if you prefer to think that “Love is everywhere in the world, and I love and am loved,” and repeat this phrase as often as possible, then this is exactly what you will experience. Many wonderful people will unexpectedly come into your life, and those who already love you will love you even more.

At a young age, we learn about life from the reactions of adults.

If you had to live with people who were not very happy, angry or felt guilty, then you learned to perceive yourself and the world around you negatively. “I never do anything right,” “It’s my fault,” “If I’m angry, then I’m a bad person” are some of your constant thoughts. And such thoughts create a life of disappointments.

As we grow up, we tend to recreate the emotional environment of our childhood.

This is neither bad nor good, neither right nor wrong, we just know what the words “like home” mean. In our personal relationships, we often recreate the relationship we had with our mother or father. Think about how often you have had a lover or boss who is exactly like your father or mother. We treat ourselves the same way our parents treated us. We scold and punish ourselves the same way our parents scolded and punished us. We can almost hear the words they used on such occasions. If we were loved when we were children, then as adults we love ourselves too and in the same way.

"You can never do anything right." "It's your fault." How often do you say these words to yourself?

"You are beautiful". "I love you". How often do you say such words to yourself?

HOWEVER, I DON'T BLADE MY PARENTS FOR THIS

We are all victims of victims, and our parents could not teach us what they themselves did not know. If your mother did not know how to love herself, or your father did not know how to love himself, then it was naturally impossible for them to teach you how to love yourself. If you have a desire to understand your parents better, ask them about their childhood, and if you listen with compassion, you will understand the origin of their fear and their attitude towards life.

The people who “made you suffer” were just as scared as you are now.

I believe that we choose our own parents.

Each person decides whether to be born again on this planet at one time or another and in one place or another. We chose to be born here again in order to go through a certain lesson in life, which in turn ensures our further spiritual development on the evolutionary path. We choose our gender, the color of our skin, the country in which we are born, and then we choose the parents who, in our opinion, most reflect the problem we are going to work on. Then, as we grow up, we tend to point and whine at them; "You are to blame." In fact, we chose them for ourselves because they were ideal for us in our attempt to overcome what we were going to overcome in this life.

We form our beliefs as children and then move through life recreating situations that fit our beliefs. Look back at the path you have taken in life and you will see that you create the same situation again and again. I am convinced that you create it because it reflects exactly what you believe. In this case, it does not matter how long you feel the presence of this problem, its size or the danger that it contains.

The starting point of strength is always in the present moment

Without exception, all the events in your life up to now were created only by you, with the help of your beliefs based on past experiences. They were created by you with the help of thoughts and words that you used yesterday, last week, last month, last year, 10, 20, 30, 40 years ago, depending on your age.

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Introduction

Dear friends!

I have received hundreds of letters from readers asking for more information. Many of my patients and seminar participants here in America and abroad have asked me to explain in more detail the essence and methods of my theory.

My new book is written in the form of a manual. Imagine that you come to see me or attend my seminar. If you follow my recommendations in the sequence indicated here, then after reading the last paragraph, you will already begin to change your life.

Take your time, pay attention to each of them. If possible, do the exercises with a friend or close relative.

Each chapter opens with an affirmation that is good to use specifically in the area of your life in which you are having problems. Spend two to three days studying each chapter. Repeat and write down the affirmation many times.

All chapters end with a healing meditation that will help you internalize positive ideas and thus change your thinking patterns. Read each meditation several times a day.

Here are a few points of my philosophy:

1. Each of us is responsible for our own life experiences.

2. Every thought shapes our future.

3. Our strength is in the present moment.

4. We all suffer from dissatisfaction with ourselves and the consciousness of our own guilt.

5. Everyone's secret thought: "I'm not good enough."

6. It is only a thought, but a thought can be changed.

7. Resentment, condemnation and consciousness of guilt are the most harmful states of mind for us.

8. Getting rid of resentment can even cure cancer.

9. Everything works out for us if we really love ourselves.

10. We must get rid of the past and forgive everyone.

11. You must want to learn to love yourself.

12. Self-respect and agreement with yourself in the present are the keys to positive changes in the future.

13. We owe every disease in our body to ourselves.

Part 1
Philosophy of Louise Hay

The road to wisdom and knowledge is always open.

What I believe

In essence, our life is very simple: what we give back comes back to us.

Everything we think about ourselves becomes reality. I am convinced that all of us, including me, are responsible for everything in our lives - both good and bad. Our every thought shapes the future. Each of us creates our own life experience with our thoughts, feelings and words.

We ourselves create various situations, and then, wasting our energy, we blame others for our disappointments. No one and nothing has power over us, since we are the only thinkers in our lives. Only by creating harmony in our minds do we find it in our lives.

Tell me, which of the two statements is more typical for you: “People are trying to harm me” or “Everyone is ready to help me”? The point is that each of these beliefs shapes a different experience. Our ideas about ourselves and about life take on real features.

The cosmos supports our every thought that we want to believe.

In other words, our subconscious absorbs everything we want to believe in, that is, my ideas about myself and about life become reality for me, and yours - for you. We have unlimited choices about how to think and what to think about. Understanding this, it is better to choose the statement: “Everyone is ready to help me” than “People are trying to harm me.”

The cosmic force never judges or condemns us.

It accepts us for who we are and then reflects our beliefs into our lives. If I want to believe that life is dull, I'm lonely, no one loves me, then that's what my life will turn out to be.

If I inspire myself that the world is permeated with love, I love and am able to evoke a reciprocal feeling, if I repeat this affirmation many times, then this belief of mine will become a reality. People who love me will come into my life, their feelings will become even stronger, and I will easily express sympathy and heartfelt affection for others.

Most of us have ridiculous ideas about who we are and adhere to strict rules about how we should live.

I say this not as a condemnation, since each of us, to the best of our strength and ability, tries to do everything as best as possible.

If we were wiser, understood ourselves and life better, then, of course, we would act differently. Don't reproach yourself for the current situation. The very fact that you have discovered Louise Hay means that you are ready to change your life for the better. Thank yourself for this. “Men cry”, “Women don’t know how to manage money”... What strict limits they drive us into!

Our attitude towards ourselves and life is formed in early childhood under the influence of the adults around us.

It is then that we get our first ideas about ourselves and the world. If you've lived among unhappy, angry, fearful, or guilt-ridden people, you've learned a lot of bad things about yourself and your environment. “I always do everything wrong”, “It’s my fault”, “If I’m angry, it means I’m bad.” Such thoughts make our life sad and full of disappointments, reflecting the lifestyle that we want to realize on our path.

As we grow up, we strive to recreate the emotional atmosphere in which we spent our childhood.

It is difficult to say whether this is good or bad, right or wrong, but this is what is associated in our minds with the concepts of “home” and “family”. By building our personal relationships, we try to recreate the family ties that we had with our parents or between them. It is no coincidence that our lovers and bosses are often “exactly” like mom or dad. We treat ourselves the same way our parents treated us, like them, we scold and punish ourselves. Listen to yourself! You use almost the same words that you heard in your family.

If we were loved in childhood, now, as adults, we also cherish and cherish ourselves.

How often have you said to yourself: “You're doing everything wrong! It's all your fault!"

"You are wonderful! I love you". How often do you say this to yourself now?

Be that as it may, I would not blame my parents for this.

We are all victims of those who at one time turned out to be victims. Probably, our parents could not teach us what they themselves did not know. If your mother or father did not know how to love themselves, then, of course, they could not teach you to do the same. They tried their best and acted as they themselves were taught in childhood. If you want to understand your parents better, persuade them to remember their childhood. After patiently listening to the story, you will understand where their fears and sidelong glances came from. It turns out that the parents you thought treated you “badly” as a child were just as intimidated as you were.

I am sure that we choose our parents ourselves.

Each of us decides to incarnate in a certain image, place and time on this planet. We decided to come here to gain certain knowledge and life experience that would ensure our further spiritual and emotional development. We choose our gender, color, country, where to be born, and then we look for suitable parents who will reflect the lifestyle that we want to realize on our life path. Then, having matured, we look at them reproachfully and whine: “It’s all your fault!” However, we actually chose them ourselves because they fit perfectly with what we would like to accomplish in our lives.

We form our beliefs in childhood, and then throughout our lives we create situations that correspond to them. Look back at your past. You will see how often you have found yourself in the same circumstances. I am sure that they reflected what you yourself believe in. It doesn't matter how long the problem has existed, how serious it has been, or to what extent it threatens your life.

Our strength is in the present moment.

Every event in your life up until now has been created by your thoughts, past beliefs, and words you spoke yesterday, last week, last month, last year, ten, twenty, thirty, forty years ago, or even earlier, depending. from your age.

However, this is your past. It is gone forever. It is very important to know what you think and believe and what you say right now, because it is these thoughts and beliefs that will shape your future. Your strength is in the present moment. It is he who determines your actions for tomorrow, next week, next month, etc.

It would be good if you paid attention to what you are thinking about right now. Are your thoughts positive or negative? Do you want them to determine your future? Remember them and keep this in mind in the future.

The main thing in our life is thought, and thought can always be changed.

It doesn't matter what the problem is; our action is just a reflection of thought. Even if you feel deeply dissatisfied with yourself, it is only the result of the fact that you think so about yourself. "I am a bad man". This thought forms the feeling to which you give in. Be that as it may, if there is no thought, there will be no feeling. But thoughts can be changed.

The thought will change and you will get rid of the feeling.

All this only explains the origin of many of our beliefs. But let's not use this information to justify dwelling on our pain or troubles. No matter how long our negative attitude may be, the past has no power over us. The source of our strength is the present moment. How wonderful it is to realize this! We can start a free life now.

Believe it or not, we choose our thoughts.

We can think about the same thing over and over again out of habit, so that it doesn’t even seem like we choose these thoughts ourselves. But we have made a peculiar choice, and we can refuse some thoughts. Remember how often you were unwilling to think positively about yourself. Now you can give up negative thoughts.

It seems to me that everyone I know or whom I have treated suffers, to one degree or another, from dissatisfaction with themselves and a sense of their own guilt. The more we hate ourselves, the stronger the feeling of guilt, the less prosperous our life is. And vice versa, the more we value and respect ourselves and the less we blame, the more success we achieve in all areas of life.

The deepest thought of everyone I have treated is: “I’m not good enough.” You can also add to this: “I don’t work hard” or “I am unworthy.” Well, do you recognize yourself? Have you often told yourself, hinted or felt that you are “not good enough”? But for whom? And by whose standards?

If this belief is ingrained in you, then how can you make your life prosperous, full of love, joy and health? This subconscious belief will somehow conflict with your life. There is no way you can combine them, something will definitely go wrong.

I am convinced that feelings of resentment, criticism and self-criticism, guilt and fear give rise to the biggest problems.

It is these feelings and conditions that cause most of the problems in our body and life. And the reason is that we judge others and are not responsible for our actions. Indeed, if we ourselves are responsible for everything that happens in our lives, then there will be no one to blame. Wherever and whatever happens “out there, outside of us,” it is only a reflection of our own consciousness. I am in no way condoning the bad behavior of some people, but it is our beliefs that attract them and provoke them to treat us so badly.

If you catch yourself saying: “Everyone treats me badly, criticizes, doesn’t help, humiliates and insults me,” then this is your psychological attitude, your thinking pattern. Probably, some of your thoughts attract the attention of people who allow themselves such behavior. But if you change your attitude, they will move away and behave this way with others. You won't attract them anymore.

I will give the results of the influence of psychological mood on the physical condition of people. Thus, prolonged feelings of resentment and anger consume the body and can cause cancer. The constant habit of judging and criticizing causes arthritis. The feeling of guilt is associated with the expectation of punishment, which creates painful sensations. When a patient comes to me complaining of numerous pains, I know that he is tormented by more than just guilt. Fear and tension can contribute to baldness, peptic ulcers and trophic ulcers on the legs.

I came to the conclusion that forgiveness, letting go of resentment and peace of mind can even cure cancer. Although this may sound overly simplistic, I have experienced the truth of the above in practice.

We can change our attitude towards the past.

The past is gone forever. It is not in our power to change it. But we can change our ideas about it. How stupid it is now, at this moment, to punish ourselves for an offense inflicted on us by someone in the distant past.

I often tell people who suffer from resentment, “Please start getting rid of this feeling now, while it is quite easy to do. Don't wait until you're under the surgeon's knife or on your deathbed. Then horror will overwhelm you, you will begin to panic, and it will be very difficult for us to concentrate your thoughts on treatment. It will take time to rid you of fear first.”

If you convince yourself that you are helpless and defenseless victims and all our efforts to cure you are useless, then the Cosmos will support this belief, as a result, your condition will worsen every day. It is imperative that you get rid of stupid, inert and sad thoughts from your head that do not support you. Even our concept of God should work for us, not against us.

In order to get rid of the past, we must be willing to forgive

We must be willing to let go of the past and forgive everyone, including ourselves. We may not know how to do it, but perhaps even saying “We intend to forgive” is the beginning of the healing process.

Healing is only possible if we renounce the past and forgive everyone.

“I forgive you for not being what I would like you to be. I forgive and set you free." This affirmation makes us free too.

All diseases come from an unwillingness to forgive.

In the book “A Course of Lectures on Miracles” (author – Kenneth Wapnik. – Ed) it is said that all illnesses come from an unwillingness to forgive people and ourselves, and that every time we get sick, we need to look around and see who we should forgive.

And I would add to this: you will find that you will find it most difficult to forgive the very person who needs to be allowed to leave before others. Forgiveness means giving up, giving in, letting go. But this has nothing to do with bad behavior. It's just that it gets rid of the whole problem. We don't have to know HOW to forgive. The only thing that is required of us is to have the DESIRE, the INTENTION to forgive. The cosmos itself will take care of how to do this. We always feel our pain. But it is so hard for many of us to imagine that those who most need forgiveness also felt pain. We must understand that they tried to do everything as best as possible, using the knowledge and information available to them at that time.

When people come to me with their problems, no matter what - poor health, lack of money, less-than-perfect relationships or decreased creativity - the only thing I work on with them is SELF-LOVE.

I believe that when we truly love and accept ourselves for who we really are, everything in life works out well. Our health improves, we earn more money, our relationships become more harmonious, and our creativity is fully unleashed. It seems that everything happens without our efforts, of course.

Love and peace of mind, a calm, friendly and trusting atmosphere make your work more organized and your relationships warmer. In this state, you will quickly find a new job, better housing than before, and you will even be able to normalize your weight. It is known that people who love themselves and their bodies never treat themselves or others badly.

Your peace of mind and self-acceptance now are the key to beneficial changes in all areas of your life in the future.

In my opinion, self-love begins with the renunciation of any self-criticism ever and for anything. Criticism and condemnation drive us into the framework of the thinking patterns that we are trying to change. Understanding and kindness help to move beyond these limits. Remember, you have tormented yourself with self-criticism for years. And what came of it? Try to live in harmony with yourself and see what happens next.

Part 2
Classes with Louise

Chapter I
What is the problem?

Don't be afraid to look into your soul.

My body doesn't function.

It hurts, bleeds, aches, presses, aches, burns, ages, dries out. I see poorly, hear poorly... Plus many other sensations and states that are unique to you. But I've heard all this before!

My relationships with the people around me are far from ideal.

Relatives or people around me always demand something, don’t support me, judge me, don’t love me, bother me, don’t want me to bother them, don’t give me the opportunity to be alone, bully me, never listen to me... This is all so familiar. Is there anything else you can add?

My financial situation is deplorable.

There is no income, if it appears, it is very rare, there is never enough money, it slips through your fingers faster than it comes in; my income does not allow me to pay my bills on time... Plus what you can come up with yourself. I think you and I have heard this somewhere before?

My life is not going well.

I never do what I would like to do. I can't please anyone. I do not know what I want. My wants and needs are ignored. I do everything only to please them. I am humiliated and bullied in every possible way. I have no talent. I can't do anything. I always put things off until later. I'm just unlucky... Isn't it all painfully familiar?

Whenever I ask my patient how he or she is doing, I always get one of the above answers, and sometimes several at once. People are usually convinced that they know their problems. But I know that these complaints are just an external manifestation of their way of thinking, their psychological attitude. Beneath them are hidden other problems, deeper ones, which are the basis of all external manifestations.

I listen carefully to the speech of my interlocutors, to the words they use, and ask several questions that I consider the most important:

What's going on in your life?

How are you feeling?

How do you make a living?

Do you love your job?

What is your financial situation?

What is your personal life like?

How did your last novel end?

And the penultimate one?

Tell me briefly about your childhood.

When talking with patients, I observe their facial expressions, the posture they take, but I pay most attention to their words. It is known that thoughts and words determine our future. Listening to how and what a person says, I can easily understand the cause of his specific problems. After all, our words reflect our hidden thoughts. Sometimes the words patients use do not agree with the actions they report. Then it is clear to me that the patients are either not aware of real events or are lying to me. One of these assumptions is the starting point of our work.

EXERCISE “I MUST”

I give patients a piece of paper and a pen and ask them to write a heading at the top: “I Must.”

Then I propose to complete this phrase in five or six ways. Some find it difficult to even start the exercise, while others find it difficult to stop. Once all the answers have been written, I ask patients to read them out loud in order, beginning with “I must...”. After each answer I ask: “Why?”

The answers I receive are interesting and frank. They go something like this: “My mother said I should”, “Because I’m afraid”, “Because I have to be perfect”, “Because I have to do this every day”, “Because I’m too lazy (short) , tall, too fat, too thin, taciturn, very ugly, completely worthless, etc.).”

The answers show that these people participate in the formation of their opinions, which limits their behavior.

Without commenting on the answers, at the end of the lesson I talk with patients on the topic “The verb “MUST”.

I am sure that this verb is one of the most, so to speak, destructive words in our language. Every time we say it, we are essentially saying it wrong. We are either making mistakes now, or have made a mistake at some point, or are about to make one. I don't think we need more "mistakes" in life. We should have more free choice. If it were up to me, I would completely remove the verb “should” from the dictionary, replacing it with the expression “I could,” because it gives us a chance not to make mistakes.

It turns out that some patients reproached themselves for years for actions committed against their will, or condemned themselves for unfulfilled plans and dreams. Very often they did this by following the advice or instructions of other people. Now, having realized this, they could, by doing my exercise, easily cross this phrase off the list with the verb “should”. What relief they immediately felt!

Look at the people who, for years, against their will, only to please their parents, force themselves to pursue a career. And all because they thought: “He should become a dentist or a teacher.” How often do we suffer from a sense of inferiority because someone said that by following the example of some relative, we “should” become richer, more energetic, or more beautiful.

What could you feel relieved to cross off your “should” list?

After completing the exercise, my interlocutors begin to look at their lives with different eyes. They understand that they acted one way or another against their will and desire, it was simply considered obligatory. They were afraid of offending anyone by their refusal, tried to please others, or considered themselves “bad.”

Now the problem takes on different shapes. Friends! I began my lesson with an attempt to rid you of the consciousness of my “wrongness”, my failure to meet someone else’s standards.

Then I usually introduce you to my philosophy of life, which is outlined at the beginning of this book. That's the essence of it. Life is really very simple: we get what we give to others. The universe fully supports the beliefs we choose to have. Even in childhood, under the influence of adults, we learn to evaluate ourselves. Over the years, our beliefs, whatever they may be, are reflected in our actions. There are different options for psychological attitude. Our strength is in the present moment. Change can begin right now, this minute.

Heal Your Life

Louise L. Hay

Louise Hay is one of the founders of the self-help movement and the author of more than 30 books on popular psychology. In the book “Heal Your Life” (You Can Heal Your Life), the author offers his own unique methods of curing many diseases with the help of willpower and thoughts - you just need to change your thinking pattern, accept and love yourself and your body. Each chapter opens with an affirmation that is specific to the area where you are having problems, and ends with a healing incantation. Over the three decades since it was written, this book has won the hearts of readers all over the world and has already helped millions of people change their lives for the better.

Louise Hay

Heal your life

Introduction

Dear friends!

Take your time, pay attention to each of them. If possible, do the exercises with a friend or close relative.

All chapters end with a healing meditation that will help you internalize positive ideas and thus change your thinking patterns. Read each meditation several times a day.

Here are a few points of my philosophy:

1. Each of us is responsible for our own life experiences.

2. Every thought shapes our future.

3. Our strength is in the present moment.

4. We all suffer from dissatisfaction with ourselves and the consciousness of our own guilt.

5. Everyone's secret thought: "I'm not good enough."

6. It is only a thought, but a thought can be changed.

7. Resentment, condemnation and consciousness of guilt are the most harmful states of mind for us.

8. Getting rid of resentment can even cure cancer.

9. Everything works out for us if we really love ourselves.

10. We must get rid of the past and forgive everyone.

11. You must want to learn to love yourself.

12. Self-respect and agreement with yourself in the present are the keys to positive changes in the future.

13. We owe every disease in our body to ourselves.

Philosophy of Louise Hay

The road to wisdom and knowledge is always open.

What I believe

In essence, our life is very simple: what we give back comes back to us.

The cosmos supports our every thought that we want to believe.

The cosmic force never judges or condemns us.

It accepts us for who we are and then reflects our beliefs into our lives. If I want to believe that life is dull, I'm lonely, no one loves me, then that's what my life will turn out to be.

Most of us have ridiculous ideas about who we are and adhere to strict rules about how we should live.

I say this not as a condemnation, since each of us, to the best of our strength and ability, tries to do everything as best as possible.

Our attitude towards ourselves and life is formed in early childhood under the influence of the adults around us.

As we grow up, we strive to recreate the emotional atmosphere in which we spent our childhood.

If we were loved in childhood, now, as adults, we also cherish and cherish ourselves.

How often have you said to yourself: “You're doing everything wrong! It's all your fault!"

"You are wonderful! I love you". How often do you say this to yourself now?

Be that as it may, I would not blame my parents for this.

We are all victims of those who ourselves in due time

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turned out to be a victim. Probably, our parents could not teach us what they themselves did not know. If your mother or father did not know how to love themselves, then, of course, they could not teach you to do the same. They tried their best and acted as they themselves were taught in childhood. If you want to understand your parents better, persuade them to remember their childhood. After patiently listening to the story, you will understand where their fears and sidelong glances came from. It turns out that the parents you thought treated you “badly” as a child were just as intimidated as you were.

I am sure that we choose our parents ourselves.

Our strength is in the present moment.

The main thing in our life is thought, and thought can always be changed.

The thought will change and you will get rid of the feeling.

Believe it or not, we choose our thoughts.

I am convinced that feelings of resentment, criticism and self-criticism, guilt and fear give rise to the biggest problems.

We can change our attitude towards the past.

If you convince yourself that you are helpless and defenseless victims

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and all our efforts to cure you are useless, then the Cosmos will support this belief, as a result, your condition will worsen every day. It is imperative that you get rid of stupid, inert and sad thoughts from your head that do not support you. Even our concept of God should work for us, not against us.

In order to get rid of the past, we must be willing to forgive

Healing is only possible if we renounce the past and forgive everyone.

“I forgive you for not being what I would like you to be. I forgive and set you free." This affirmation makes us free too.

All diseases come from an unwillingness to forgive.

When people come to me with their problems, no matter what - poor health, lack of money, less-than-perfect relationships or decreased creativity - the only thing I work on with them is SELF-LOVE.

Your peace of mind and self-acceptance now are the key to beneficial changes in all areas of your life in the future.

Classes with Louise

What is the problem?

Don't be afraid to look into your soul.

My body doesn't function.

It hurts, bleeds, aches, presses, aches, burns, ages, dries out. I see poorly, hear poorly... Plus many other sensations and states that are unique to you. But I've heard all this before!

My relationships with the people around me are far from ideal.

My financial situation is deplorable.

My life is not going well.

I listen carefully to the speech of my interlocutors, to the words they use, and ask several questions that I consider the most important:

What's going on in your life?

How are you feeling?

How do you make a living?

Do you love your job?

What is your financial situation?

What is your personal life like?

How did your last novel end?

And the penultimate one?

Tell me briefly about your childhood.

EXERCISE “I MUST”

I give patients a piece of paper and a pen and ask them to write a heading at the top: “I Must.”

The answers show that these people participate in the formation of their opinions, which limits their behavior.

Without commenting on the answers, at the end of the lesson I talk with patients on the topic “The verb “MUST”.

I am sure that this verb is one of the most, so to speak,

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destructive words in our language. Every time we say it, we are essentially saying it wrong. We are either making mistakes now, or have made a mistake at some point, or are about to make one. I don't think we need more "mistakes" in life. We should have more free choice. If it were up to me, I would completely remove the verb “should” from the dictionary, replacing it with the expression “I could,” because it gives us a chance not to make mistakes.

What could you feel relieved to cross off your “should” list?

Now the problem takes on different shapes. Friends! I began my lesson with an attempt to rid you of the consciousness of my “wrongness”, my failure to meet someone else’s standards.

Love yourself!

I would like to repeat once again that no matter what problems concern patients and students, the one thing I work on with everyone is called “Love Yourself!” Love is a miracle cure. Loving yourself means bringing miracles into your life.

I do not mean vanity, arrogance or self-centeredness, since this is not love, but only fear. I'm talking about self-respect, reverence and gratitude for your body and mind.

What do I mean by the word "love"? It is a feeling of great gratitude that permeates every fiber of my heart. There are various objects of love.

For example, I love:

Life in all its manifestations;

The joy of being;

The beauty that surrounds me;

Another man;

The thought process itself;

Your body and its functions;

Animals, birds and fish;

All types of vegetables;

Space and everything connected with it. What else can you add?

Now let's look at how we express dissatisfaction with ourselves:

We constantly scold and criticize ourselves;

We abuse our bodies through food, alcohol and drugs;

We convince ourselves that no one loves us;

We are afraid to demand decent payment for our work;

We ourselves provoke illness and pain;

We put off things that could benefit us;

We live in chaos and disorder;

We go into debt and burden ourselves with payments and expenses;

We take lovers and partners who humiliate us.

How do you express dissatisfaction with yourself?

Denial of everything good that is in you is dislike for yourself. I remembered a case with one patient who wore glasses. One day she got rid of the fear that had tormented her all her life. The next day, when she woke up, she discovered that her glasses began to interfere with her. Looking around, she realized that her vision was completely restored.

Nevertheless, all day she told herself: “I don’t believe it, I can’t believe it.” As a result, she had to put her glasses back on the next day. The fact is that our subconscious does not perceive humor, and the patient could not believe in a miraculous healing.

Another manifestation of self-dissatisfaction is a feeling of inferiority.

Tom was a wonderful artist. He custom-made decorative designs for the walls of the houses of wealthy clients. However, he was always late in paying his bills. The initial price he charged did not correspond to the effort and time spent on the work. Anyone who performs extraordinary work has the right to demand any payment. Wealthy people like to pay big money because it increases the value of what they buy.

I will give the following examples.

Your partner is tired and irritated. You ask yourself: “What did I do wrong?”

He asked you out once or twice and then disappeared forever. You think: “I’m probably not right for him.”

Your marriage ends in divorce and you are convinced that you have failed.

You feel inferior because your body does not at all correspond to the standards of beauty that can be seen in advertising and Vogue magazine.

You can't introduce yourself properly because you're sure you're not good enough to do it.

You are afraid of intimacy, do not dare to start a serious romance, preferring rare and casual relationships.

You cannot make decisions because you are sure that you will definitely make a mistake.

How do you express your feelings of inferiority?

Child perfection

How perfect and charming you were in your early childhood! Children do not need to strive for perfection; they are perfection itself and behave as if they know it. They feel like the center of the Universe, are not afraid to ask for whatever they want, and do not hesitate to express their emotions: if a child is angry, the whole neighborhood knows about it, he smiles - and his smile lights up the whole house. Children are full of love and have amazing courage.

A baby can die without love. Over the years, we adults are forced to learn to live without this feeling, but for a child it is unbearable. Children love their body, every organ, every part, including even excrement - they cherish themselves.

That's how we were. But, as we grow up, we listen more and more to the opinions of adults, who are characterized by a feeling of fear, and we lose our former charm and perfection.

I never trust patients

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convincing me that they are very, very unattractive. My job is to take them back to the time when they loved themselves.

Exercise with a mirror

I ask the patient to place a small mirror in front of him, look into it and, calling himself by name, say: “I love and accept you for who you really are.”

Many people find it difficult to do this exercise. Rarely does anyone remain calm, and there can be no talk of joy or pleasure. Some cry or are about to cry, others get angry and downplay their strengths, but there are also those who assure me that they are unable to complete the exercise. One patient even threw the mirror and wanted to run away. It took him several months before he could address his reflection.

For many years, when I looked in the mirror, I only criticized myself. I remember I was even afraid to look into my eyes. But now the memories of endless hours spent plucking my eyebrows in an attempt to make my face just a little prettier amuse and make me laugh.

This simple mirror exercise explains a lot. In less than an hour, I understand the essence of the main problem, sometimes hidden under another, visible one. We can work long and hard on this external problem, and at the moment when, it would seem, everything is already established and regulated, it suddenly arises somewhere else. What we think is a problem rarely actually is one.

One of my patients was very dissatisfied with her appearance, especially her teeth. She went from one dentist to another, sadly noting that they were making her even more ugly. She had plastic surgery on her nose, which was unsuccessful. No matter what each specialist did, the result only reflected this woman’s perception of her unattractiveness. In reality, her problem was not her appearance, but the belief that she was not good-looking.

Another patient had terrible breathing - it was simply unbearable to be near her. She was preparing to become a shepherd, and outwardly her behavior appeared dignified and godly. However, from time to time, at the thought that someone could threaten her career, she was stifled by outbursts of anger and envy. These secret thoughts and suspicions were reflected in her breathing. Sometimes, even pretending to be loving, she was disgusting. The woman threatened herself.

The boy was 15 years old when his mother brought him to see me. The teenager had Hodgkins' disease and had only three months to live. The mother was hysterical, and for obvious reasons it was difficult to get along with her. But the guy was smart, calm and passionately wanted to live. He was ready to do everything I told him, even change his way of thinking and speaking. Divorced parents quarreled all the time, and the boy had no idea about home comfort.

He dreamed of becoming an actor. The desire for fame and wealth exceeded his ability to experience a feeling of joy. He believed that only fame would bring him recognition and wealth. I taught the boy to appreciate and love himself, and he recovered. Now he is an adult and regularly performs on Broadway. As soon as he learned to enjoy life and be at peace with himself, he began to be offered roles in plays.

The problem of weight change is another clear example of how we spend a lot of energy in the wrong places. Many patients have been trying to reduce their weight for years, but all their efforts are in vain. In their opinion, obesity is the root of all troubles, failures and diseases. I believe that excess weight is only an external manifestation of their secrets and hidden problems, such as constant anxiety, or fear, or the need for protection. When we feel fear, do not feel safe, or suffer from an inferiority complex, we gain weight as if in defense. Feeling guilty for every bite you eat, constantly reproaching yourself for being overweight and making endless calculations of the calorie content of food is a waste of time. If you don't admit this, then twenty years from now you will still be in the same position because you haven't yet started working on the real problem. And everything we did before only fueled fear and increased the feeling of danger, so as a defensive reaction we gained weight.

So, I don't want you to focus on different diets because they don't work. The only effective diet is mental, that is, giving up negative thoughts. I tell those who come to see me: “Let’s put this problem aside for a while. Let's do something else first."

Patients often say that they are unhappy with themselves because they are too fat or, as one girl put it, she is “too round.” I explain to them: the reason is that they don’t love themselves. Enjoy life, respect yourself, maintain peace of mind, and you will be surprised to find that your fullness is rapidly disappearing.

Sometimes patients get angry when I explain to them how easy it is to change their lives. Perhaps they think I don't understand them. One woman, upset, told me: “I came to you to get help with my dissertation, not to learn to love myself.” It was clear to me that her main problem was a great dissatisfaction with herself, which affected all areas of her life, including her scientific work. As long as she feels this dissatisfaction with herself, she will not achieve success anywhere or anything.

Without listening to me completely, the patient left in tears, but a year later she returned with the same problem, to which many others were added. Some people are not ready to change their lives, and we should not judge them for this. Remember: we all begin to change at a certain time, in a certain place and in a certain sequence. For example, I began to change my lifestyle after fifty years.

The essence of the real problem

So, our patient became very upset when he looked at himself in a small, harmless mirror. I smile and say, “Okay, now let's get to the real problem. Now we can remove everything that is bothering you." I talk in detail about what it means to love yourself and that, in my opinion, this love begins with a complete rejection of self-criticism.

Watching people's faces, I ask if they are criticizing themselves. Their reaction to my question tells me a lot: “Yes, of course”, “Not as often as I did before”, “How will I change if I don’t criticize myself?”, “Don’t everyone criticize themselves?”

I answer: “We are not talking about everyone, we are talking only about you. Why are you criticizing yourself? What's wrong with you?

As I listen to their answers, I come up with a list that is very similar to the one with the verb “should.” Patients consider themselves too tall, small, overweight, thin, silent, old, lazy, young, ugly. (It’s interesting that even the most beautiful and charming women answer this way.) Notice how often, almost always, we hear the word “too.” And finally we come to the main conclusion: “I’m not good enough.”

Hooray! We've finally found the root of the problem. They criticize themselves because they have given themselves the thought: “I am bad.” Patients are always surprised how quickly we come to this conclusion. now we

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We don’t have to worry about side effects like excess weight, illness, bad relationships, financial problems or decreased creativity. We need to direct all our energy to removing the root cause, namely dissatisfaction with ourselves.

What is the root of the problem?

The past has no power over us.

So, friends, you and I have discussed many situations and examined in detail what we considered to be the problem. Now let's deal with the real problem - as I understand it. We are not satisfied with ourselves, we consider ourselves not good enough, and therefore we love ourselves little. From my point of view, this is where the real problem lies. Therefore, I propose to consider what it is based on and where its roots are.

How did it happen that from kids who know their perfection and the impeccability of the world around us, we turned into people burdened with a heavy burden of problems and feeling unworthy of love and respect?

Let's take a rose as an example. At first it was a small bud. Then, turning into a beautiful flower, she fragrantly smelled until the last petal fell. And all this time she was beautiful, perfect and constantly changing. The same thing happens to us: we are always perfect, beautiful and constantly changing. We try to know as much as possible, to understand how best to use our knowledge. If we continue to follow this rule, then our thoughts will change.

Getting your thoughts in order

Now is the time to remember our past in detail, our views and beliefs that controlled us then.

Some patients find this part of the cleansing process quite painful, but this is not always the case. Before we begin cleansing, we must review our thoughts.

When thoroughly cleaning a room, you always carefully inspect it and all the things in it. Some you love, dust them off or polish them, returning them to their former beauty. Other things need repair and you will take note of that. Still others will never be of use to you again; it means it's time to part with them. Old newspapers, magazines or disposable tableware can be safely thrown into the trash bin, and there is no need to be upset about it.

In the same way, we put our thoughts in order, and there is no need to worry about the fact that we need to get rid of some. May they leave us as easily as if we had thrown leftover food into the trash. Tell me, will you rummage through yesterday's leftovers when preparing food for today? Will you dig into outdated beliefs to create the foundation for your future?

If a thought or belief is not good for you, let it go! After all, there is no law according to which you do not have the right to abandon past, outdated opinions.

Let's talk about some of them that prevent us from living fully, the so-called "limiting beliefs", and see where they come from.

A belief that prevents you from living a full life: “I’m not good enough.”

Reason: a father who convinced his son that he was stupid.

My patient wanted to succeed so that his father would be proud of him. But, unfortunately, things went very badly for him, for which he was constantly criticized. And he was very offended by this. His father continued to finance his business activities, but failures followed the guy. Over time, he even got used to them and forced his father to pay, pay and pay. Of course, he became the biggest loser...

A belief that interferes with a full-blooded life: the inability to love oneself.

Reason: desire to earn father's praise.

My patient's only desire was to become like her father. They could not agree with each other on anything and argued all the time. She wanted to hear words of approval, but he only criticized her. The girl's whole body was in pain. My father felt exactly the same way. She didn't realize that her irritation and anger were creating pain. The same can be said about the father.

Belief that prevents you from living: “My life is in danger.”

Reason: father's intimidation.

The patient considered life dangerous, dark and harsh. She almost never laughed, because she was afraid that something bad would definitely happen later. She was raised by constantly making comments: “Don’t laugh or they’ll catch you.”

A belief that prevents you from living: “I’m not good enough.”

Reason: he was abandoned, he was neglected.

It was difficult to talk to this patient because silence had become his way of life. He had just stopped using drugs and alcohol and thought he was terrible. I found out that he was raised by his aunt because his mother died when he was a child. Aunt rarely spoke to him, only occasionally giving orders, even during meals, so he grew up in silence. So, silently, he spent day after day in his room. Later, his partner was also not known for his verbosity, and they spent most of their time in silence. Then his friend died and he was left alone again.

Exercise “Negative statements”

To do this exercise, take a large piece of paper and make a list of all the comments and instructions you heard from your parents as a child. What they thought was wrong with you. Take your time. Try to remember as many of their negative statements as possible. Half an hour is usually enough to complete this exercise.

What did your parents say about money? About your body? About love and relationships? How did they rate your creativity? What was forgiven in your behavior? What comments did they make that limited your life, drove it into narrow boundaries, and prevented you from living a full-blooded life?

If you can, look at your list objectively and tell yourself, “This is where my bias comes from!”

Now, friends, let's take another sheet of paper and look at the problem more carefully, deeper.

What other negative statements did you hear as a child?

From relatives

From teachers

From friends

From members of the opposite sex

From church ministers

Do this exercise slowly, being aware of your feelings that fill you right now.

Everything that is written on these two pieces of paper is nothing more than beliefs that you should give up. It is because of them that you feel dissatisfied with yourself.

Imagine yourself as a child

What do you think a three-year-old child would do if they sat him in the middle of the room, yelled at him, calling him stupid, dirty, incompetent, etc., and spanked him? He would silently and obediently sit in a corner or burst into bitter tears. Yes, he would have done one or the other, but either way we would never have known about his abilities.

Another experiment. Let's take the same child, caress him and say that we love him very much, we like his face, that he is so smart, quick-witted, and does everything so well. It's okay that he's wrong, no matter what, we will always be with him. And then you will be pleasantly surprised by the abilities that he will show!

In the soul of each of us there lives the same three-year-old child, and we constantly shout at him and still wonder why our life is not going well.

Would you like to be friends with a person who constantly criticizes and judges?

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you? You may have been treated as unfairly as this child, which is very sad. But all these are things of the past, and if now you treat yourself as critically, then this is even more regrettable. Remember a few negative statements you have known since childhood. How do they relate to your beliefs that you are not doing well? Do they match? Probably yes. We build our lives based on childhood impressions and the orders of adults. As children, we are all good, obediently follow the instructions of adults and accept everything they tell us at face value.

It would be easy to blame only your parents and feel like victims for the rest of your life. But you must admit, this will not bring any satisfaction, and our problems will remain unresolved.

Condemnation of the family

Condemnation is one of the surest ways to be left alone with a problem. By judging others, we give all our energy. Understanding what is happening makes it possible to rise above life's circumstances and control your future.

The past cannot be changed; the future is determined today by our thoughts and beliefs. For the sake of our freedom, it is necessary to understand that our parents tried to do everything as best as possible with their life experience. They, like us, felt helpless, so they could only teach what they themselves had once been taught.

How much do you know about your parents' childhood, especially before the age of ten? If possible, ask them about their childhood and it will be much easier to understand why they acted the way they did. Once you understand the reasons for their behavior, you will feel pity and sympathy for them.

If you don’t have this opportunity, try to imagine the parents as children. This is necessary for your freedom. You cannot be free until you free your parents and forgive them. If you demand perfection from them, then you will demand it from yourself, and as a result you will remain unhappy all your life.

Parents' choice

I agree with the theory that we choose our own parents. The life lessons we learn may well correspond to their weaknesses and shortcomings.

I am convinced that we all make a journey into eternity and come to this planet to receive the lessons and knowledge necessary for our spiritual evolution. We choose our gender, skin color and country of birth, and we look for parents who reflect our beliefs.

Our visit to this planet is like visiting a school. If we want to become a cosmetologist, we go to cosmetology school, a mechanic goes to mechanical school, a lawyer goes to law school. The parents we found for ourselves are an ideal couple. They are experts in the field of knowledge you choose to study. As adults, we tend to point a disapproving finger at our parents and say, “It’s all your fault.” But I am convinced that we choose them ourselves.

Listen to others

During childhood, our older brothers and sisters become deities for us. When they are unhappy, they are able to spank us or scold us. They probably say things like: “I’ll tell you how you…” (instilling guilt), “You’re still little, you can’t do this,” “You’re too stupid to play with us.”

School teachers also have a huge influence on us. In the fifth grade, one teacher told me that because of my height, I would never be able to become a ballerina. I shouldn’t have believed her and, having given up my dream, I missed the time and the opportunity to make dancing my profession.

Do you now understand that the tests were conducted only to evaluate your knowledge in a given period, or, as a child, did you agree to this test to find out your worth?

As children, our friends share with us incorrect information about life. Other children tease us, leaving a lasting pain in our souls. When I was at school, my name was Lunny, and the children changed my name to “lunatik” (translated from English as “crazy, stupid”).

The neighbors also influenced us with their constant comments, and our parents kept reprimanding us: “What will the neighbors think?”

I suggest you think of other people whom you respected and whose opinions you listened to. And, of course, bright and convincing advertising programs and advertisements in print and on television played a big role. All these numerous products and goods were sold with great success, since advertising inspired us: if we don’t buy them, then we are “nothing” or abnormal people.

We have gathered here to transcend the boundaries of our previous prejudices. We are here to experience our greatness and divinity regardless of what “they” told us. You need to overcome your negative beliefs, and I need to overcome mine.

Is this really true?

Truth is an unchangeable part of me.

The question “Is this really true?” has two answers: “yes” or “no”. “Yes” - if you are convinced of the reality of what is happening, and “no” if you do not believe it. The glass is both half full and half empty, depending on how you look at it. There are, without exaggeration, billions of thoughts that you can choose from.

Most of us prefer the way of thinking that our parents did, but we are not obligated to continue that tradition. Not a single law says that we should think only one way and not another.

Whatever I want to believe becomes reality for me, but our thoughts can be completely different, just like our actions and life.

Control your thoughts

You know very well that our thoughts take on real features. If you had a financial collapse, it means that somewhere on some subconscious level you were convinced that you did not deserve to be rich. Or if you believe that nothing good lasts forever, then perhaps deep down you believe that you are not getting anything out of life, or, as I have often heard from you: “I just can’t win.”

If it seems to you that you are not able to establish normal relationships with people, then most likely you have inspired yourself: “No one loves me” or “I am not worthy of love.” Perhaps you fear that someone will dominate you, as they did with your mother, or you believe that people only cause trouble for you.

If you are in poor health and are convinced that illness is plaguing your family, or you are greatly affected by the weather, you may have the thought: “I was born to suffer” or “One misfortune follows another.”

You may have other beliefs that you don't even know you have. Believe me, there are many like you, the majority. And everyone sees only the external circumstances of life. You will remain a victim until someone points out to you the connection between life experiences and thoughts.

Whatever your problem, its cause lies in your thinking pattern, and any pattern can be changed!

The problems with which we struggle so hard and in which we constantly flounder can seem very real. But no matter how difficult and confusing the business we are busy with is only the external, visible result of our image

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If you don't know what beliefs are creating your problems, then you did the right thing by starting to read my book. Ask yourself: “What are my thoughts creating this situation?”

Sit quietly and your mind will give you the answer.

It's just a belief you picked up as a child

Some of our beliefs are positive and useful. They help us in later life, such as: “When crossing the street, look both ways.”

Others are useful only in childhood, but as we grow older we abandon them. “Don’t trust strangers” - this may be good advice for a child, but not for an adult, since if he follows it in the future, he will doom himself to loneliness and isolation from people.

Why do we rarely ask ourselves if this is true? For example, why am I convinced that I have difficulty learning?

It would be more correct to formulate these questions as follows: “Is this true for me now?”, “Where did this belief come from?”, “Do I still believe what my first grade teacher told me?”, “Will I feel better if Will I give up this belief?

Statements like “Boys don’t cry” and “Girls don’t climb trees” lead to men hiding their emotions and women being embarrassed to be physically developed.

If we are taught in childhood that the world around us is terrible and dangerous, and everything we hear around us will correspond to this suggestion, then we will perceive it as the truth. The same can be said about such advice: “Don’t trust strangers!”, “Don’t leave the house at night!” and “People will deceive you.”

Conversely, if we are taught that the world is beautiful and safe, then we will look at it with love and admiration, and we will easily learn such truths: “People are very friendly,” “Love rules the world,” and “I will always have what what I need."

Were you taught from childhood to say: “It’s my fault”? In this case, you will always feel guilty about everything and in the end you will turn into an eternally apologetic person.

If you grew up saying, “I'm not sure,” you'll always be last in line and feel left out. Exactly this incident happened to me in childhood, when I once did not get a single piece of cake (see “About Me”). You will even feel invisible, as others simply will not notice you. Under the influence of circumstances in childhood, you used to think: “Nobody loves me” and consider that loneliness is your destiny. Even if you manage to find a friend or start some kind of relationship, it will all be short-lived.

In your family you were taught: “This is not enough.” Then, I’m sure, it will always seem to you that your cupboard is empty, and you yourself will be in debt like silk.

One of my patients grew up in a family where they believed that everything was very bad and could not be otherwise. His main hobby was playing tennis. One day he injured his knee. Despite treatment from many doctors, the guy got worse and worse. It all ended badly: he had to give up his hobby.

Another patient of mine grew up in a preacher's family. From childhood he was taught that he must yield to everyone and in everything. Everyone in this family has always done this. And now, helping his clients make profitable deals, he doesn’t even have money for pocket expenses. Because of his conviction, he has been last in line all his life.

If you believe in something, it seems true to you

How often do we say: “And this is how I am” or “This is how it is.” In fact, these phrases mean that what we believe seems true to us. Usually our beliefs are the opinions of other people whom we have included in our belief system.

Perhaps you are one of those people who looks out the window on a rainy day and exclaims wistfully, “Oh, what a disgusting day!”

But the day can't be disgusting. It's just a rainy day, and if you dress for the weather and change your attitude, you might even enjoy the rain! If you are convinced of the opposite, then in the rain you will always be in a disgusting mood. You would prefer to resist rather than go with the flow of existing circumstances.

If we want to make our life joyful and enjoyable, we need to think about joyful things; if we want to live in love and harmony, think about love, etc. Whatever we think or say will come back to us in a similar form.

Every moment is a new beginning

I repeat: our strength is in the present moment. We never stand still. It is at this moment that all the changes take place in our minds.

No matter how long we have thought negatively or been sick, treated each other indifferently, or suffered from lack of money or dissatisfaction with ourselves, we can begin to change today. There is no longer any need to consider your problems as the main ones. Now they, gradually softening, will disappear forever. And this is within your power. Remember: only you (and no one else) has this type of thinking. Only you have power and strength over yourself. Your thoughts and beliefs in the past created the situation for this very moment and all other circumstances of life, up to this moment. Everything we want to believe and think and talk about now creates the next moment, the next day, month and year.

Yes, my dears! Based on my many years of experience, I can give you excellent advice, but in your will to think the same way, you may refuse to change and wallow in your problems. You, only you, are the ruler in your world! And you will get exactly what you want to think about.

It is at this moment that a new process begins. Every moment is the beginning of a new movement forward, right here and now.

How wonderful to realize this! Our strength is in the present. It is at this moment that change begins.

Is this true?

Stop for a moment and catch your thought. What are you thinking about right now? If it is true that your momentary thoughts determine the future of your life, would you like them to take on real features? If your thoughts reflect anger, anxiety, pain, fear or a desire for revenge, then in what form do you think they will come back to you, realized?

Of course, it’s not easy to catch just one in an endlessly changing stream of thoughts, but you can already start observing yourself, your thoughts and your speech. If you catch yourself using negative words, stop. You can rephrase or omit the thought by simply saying, “Get out!”

Imagine yourself standing in line in a cafeteria or buffet of some fashionable hotel, where instead of the usual dishes you are offered thought dishes. You should choose any according to your taste. These thoughts will create your life experience.

It will be quite foolish if you choose thoughts that create problems or cause pain. This equates to food that is bad for your health. We may make a mistake once or twice, but we will soon determine exactly what food is not suitable for us, and in the future we will try to beware of it. Let's try to refrain from thoughts that create problems and pain.

One of my first teachers, Raymond Barker, often said, “When there is a problem, the thing to do is not to do something, but to know.”

Our consciousness creates our future. When in our lives

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If something undesirable for us happens, then we must, using our consciousness, try to change the situation. And we begin to rebuild it the very second we change our thoughts about it.

My long-time dream is for the topic “How We Think” to become the first subject studied at school. I never understood why children need to remember the dates of historical battles. In my opinion, this is a waste of mental energy. Instead, we could teach them very important things, for example: “How we think”, “How to manage financial affairs”, “How to ensure financial security”, “How to respect and value yourself and not lose your dignity”.

Can you imagine what an entire generation of adults would be like if they were taught these subjects throughout their entire school curriculum? Just think of the impact these truths would have on people!

We would raise happy, wealthy people who, by investing money wisely and correctly, would enrich the country's economy, have excellent relationships with everyone and, by performing excellent parental duties, would create the next generation of self-confident and calm people. But at the same time, each person will remain an individual with his or her own creative ability.

Let's not waste time and continue working.

What will we do now?

I look at my parents and want to change.

Deciding to change

Many patients, having learned about this point of my theory, are horrified by what we call the troubles of life, throw up their hands and give up. Others get angry with themselves or with life and also give up.

By “give up,” I mean, “It’s all hopeless: there’s no way to change anything, so why try?” or “Leave everything as it is.” At least you know how to deal with this pain. Yes, you don’t like her, but you’ve already gotten used to her and hope that it won’t get worse.

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BOOKS FOR SELF-Knowledge

Introduction

Dear friends!

Part 1 Philosophy of Louise Hay

What I believe

Part 2 Classes with Louise

Chapter I What is the problem?

EXERCISE “I MUST”

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How to meet the guy you like at the gym?

Towel as a gift. Signs. Why can’t you give slippers, towels and watches? Do they give towels for a birthday?

Part 1
Philosophy of Louise Hay

Part 2
Classes with Louise

Chapter I
What is the problem?