A fairly pressing issue for many families is that the man does not earn enough. We are not talking about some millions of dollars, but simply about a relatively comfortable life. Maybe once upon a time, when you just started dating, his earnings were quite enough for two. The girl worked herself, they didn’t think about solving housing issues (or rather, they didn’t spend money on it), and her parents were still young and periodically helped.

However, with the development of relationships and the beginning of family (or simply joint) life, expenses grow like a snowball. You need expenses to buy your apartment or house. Children are born and they also require expenses. Parents, on the contrary, gradually earn less and less and, accordingly, help less and less, but with age they do not help, but they themselves need help.

And now a man and a woman are faced with a situation that is, in principle, easily predictable, when there is simply not enough money for ordinary expenses. Well, of course, it rarely comes to the point where there is not enough for bread, but there is not enough for clothes, rest, change of apartment, etc. – this is quite common.

There is not enough, there is not enough, but the man sits and does nothing, as if he does not notice that it has become difficult.

What to do? Why doesn’t a man earn money and how can I make him start “moving his rolls”, or rather earn more?

So, the reasons why a man earns little:

A man doesn’t know what to do to increase his income, but he is embarrassed to admit to other people and especially to his woman that he is incompetent.

This is one of the most common situations. The psychology of men is such that it is extremely difficult for him to admit his incompetence in some matter, even among good friends. It is even more difficult for him to admit his incompetence with unfamiliar people. However, the most difficult thing is to show your incompetence in front of the woman you love.

This behavior is often associated with the fact that he is a loser, a weakling who is not able to provide for his family at the proper level. This is mentally difficult for a man.

In order to hide this weakness (lack of understanding of how to earn more), a man can come up with a lot of excuses. For example, as in the fable about the fox that “grapes are green.” That is, it is not he who is unable to earn more, but supposedly he is not particularly interested in money, since it requires “moral failure, the inability to be with family and children” and a lot of other “horror stories”. This may be the need to save science, whales, take up some hobby or something else.

The main reason is that the man simply does not see real ways to earn more.

The person most interested in increasing a man’s income, by definition, is the woman who lives with him. However, it is with her that it is most difficult to discuss a way out of the situation of insufficient income.

Therefore, a man either completely loses faith in his abilities (in terms of increasing income, of course), or runs around like a squirrel in a wheel, trying to squeeze something out of methods that no longer work.

The second reason why your man’s income does not increase is also quite common and is that the parental programs and beliefs of a man or even a woman (you) do not lead to a high income.

Too often we hear about men with a good income, whose parents supposedly were very poor and who achieved everything from scratch. This really happens in life, but nevertheless, in the overwhelming majority of cases, men and women absorb parental programs for money and income from childhood. The impact of parenting programs is enormous, even if you haven't spoken to them in 10 years.

For example, Bill Gates was not at all a poor student who ran away from his first year of university. His parents were among the richest people in the state.

Warren Buffett's father (one of the most successful investors) was an investor, although not as successful.

Donald Trump's father (a real estate billionaire) had a successful real estate business.

The fourth reason for a man’s low income is a woman’s simultaneous desire for a man to earn good money and at the same time always be by her side. (this is especially true for young girls)

Increasing income usually, especially at the initial stage, requires an investment of time and sometimes money. However, there are girls who demand almost incompatible things. On the one hand, she wants the man to be successful, move up the career ladder, earn good money, and on the other hand, she wants him to never
stayed late at work and was constantly available for her calls and requests.

As you can imagine, such conflicting demands can rarely be satisfied. And usually it happens that either a man is always there and is not successful, or he is often busy and successful. Either one or the other, take your pick.

And the fifth and final reason is criticism..

In principle, criticism is a working tool with which you can effectively influence a man, including in the area of ​​increasing his income. In other words, from time to time a man needs a light (sometimes not very light) kick in the ass in order to move faster. However, this tool must be used carefully and correctly.

If a woman is simply disappointed in a man, then criticism is no longer a tool for increasing income, but only a systematic suggestion for a man that he is a loser. Unfortunately, such suggestion can work just as well. If you nag and spread rot on your partner every day that he is not capable of anything, after a while he will believe it and will stop making at least some attempts to increase his income.

So, the reasons are approximately clear. Now what should you do to make a man earn more??

The first thing is to learn to calmly discuss the topic of money and various opportunities for increasing income as a man..

As practice shows, for quite a few couples the topic of money, sex, relationships with his and her parents cannot be discussed openly, without controversy, criticism and relatively regularly.

It is clear that we will not consider a simple argument, when partners, without really listening to each other, criticize each other and try to make the other half wrong, we will not classify as a constructive discussion.

Patience and more patience. Try it gradually.

— First, discuss increasing your income as just a dream (“How great it would be”).

— Then possible plans, etc.

- Don't force things. You will definitely succeed.

If you together find a method for a man to increase his income, then the likelihood that a man will take action increases significantly. There are quite a few strategies for increasing income. You can read some of them in the “How to make money” section in free articles. I outlined specific tips on how to increase income in my book. “How to earn 3 times more than now”- buy it for your partner, let him read and apply the tips outlined to increase your income.

Second is constant learning..

Almost no significant increase in income occurs without training in one form or another. This includes formal training at the institute, learning on the job from senior comrades, self-study from books, taking courses, trainings, etc. Nowadays, continuous learning is even more important, since often during one’s working life one has to change not only the direction of work, but also the profession.

I have been communicating with various specialists, business owners, etc. for quite a long time. and I know that in reality, 80% of specialists work with a C or even a D. Another 15 percent work with a B and 5 percent know their job very well. And at the moment I’m not even talking about any innovations, inventions and great discoveries. Simply excellent knowledge of the job gives an increase in income in one form or another.

You need to study the work itself, the ability to do it quickly and inexpensively while maintaining quality (not many people know how to do this), you need to learn to communicate with management, clients, you need to be able to present your work well and promote it in one way or another, you need to learn….

The general rule is that if a man earns little, then he is a bad specialist or does not know how to promote the results of his work or is too unpredictable in terms of work, does not know how to communicate with people.

What does it take for a man to constantly study?

It is necessary to allocate for this, firstly, time, and secondly, money.

How, you may ask, is there not enough money in the budget, a man spends little time with his woman, and you propose to allocate time and money for training?

However, such is life. Without training, qualifications do not grow (as a specialist, business, ability to promote oneself). Without qualifications, good earnings are impossible. And high qualification is impossible without training, which costs money and time.

No matter how well a janitor works, he is still unlikely to earn much money. Study, study and study again, as the great Lenin bequeathed. (Lenin is not the hero of the series “Interns”, but a political figure)

Third, learn how to manage your family budget..

If a man’s higher earnings immediately have a qualitative impact on the life of a man and a woman, then this stimulates the man to further increase his income. If the money goes nowhere, then the incentive to increase income decreases, since it seems that no matter how much you earn, everything is useless.

That is, for example, if a higher income leads to improved living conditions, large purchases like a car, savings in one form or another, then this is one thing. But if no matter how much you earn, it all goes to restaurants, clothes, and generally somewhere else, then that’s different.

How to budget? You can get quite a lot of information about this in the article “How to Maintain a Family Budget, or the Power of Envelopes.”

Fourth - stop feeling sorry for men.

If he complains about his boss, then tell him to look for another job (not worse) or do work for himself. (entrepreneurship)

If no one values ​​his ideas, then maybe they aren't that valuable.

Best regards, Rashid Kirranov.

What a man can achieve in life largely depends on a woman, says training author Larisa Renard. Now, in addition to classes, her psychological center has a book, using which you can independently direct your feminine energy in the right direction.

- He proposed to me! - Lenka looked around us. We fell silent in shock.

Once a month we gathered for “girls’ get-togethers” and discussed everything and nothing. During the fifteen years of our friendship, many things happened that required immediate discussion. By the age of 35, any woman has accumulated a lot of exciting events. Our five seemed to combine all the options for women's destinies.

I got married at 23 and stayed there for 12 years, during which time I moved from a room in a communal apartment to a luxurious country mansion. I enjoyed the status of a millionaire’s wife, studied my favorite psychology, taught trainings and various classes, and at the same time tried to be a good mother for my two sons.

Male Energy Levels

“Men have seven levels of energy, which correspond to their financial status,” I began to explain, drawing a picture.

On first level a man earns only food, that is, no more than 100 euros per month. This is the level of survival and poverty. There are homeless people and poor students there. This level corresponds to the number 3.

On second level a man has enough to buy a house and support his family, but he is, as a rule, a hired worker. His income does not exceed a thousand euros per month. This is the level of gaining comfort. It corresponds to the number 7.

On third level a man has the energy to control other people. He can work in a management position or create his own business, albeit small, but generating a stable income. Typically, at this level, earnings can be up to 10,000 euros per month. This man’s fame usually does not extend beyond the city’s borders. The number 17 corresponds to this level.

On fourth level a man can control large financial flows and manage large teams. His personal income reaches 100,000 euros per month. This is the level of publicity and fame when money flows like a river. Such a man can be a top manager, the owner of his own company, or simply a famous person - an actor, singer, designer, stylist. At this level, he is already known nationwide. This level corresponds to the number 34.

On fifth level the man has enough energy and strength for politics. Having achieved it, he can become a governor, minister or oligarch. This is the level of international companies with thousands of subordinates. It corresponds to the number 72.

Sixth level- mental power of a man. This is the level of kings, emperors, presidents or those whose names are remembered for centuries - philosophers, writers, artists. A man who has reached the sixth level of power is one whose thoughts and ideas have long influenced humanity, who has left a noticeable mark on history. This level corresponds to the number 108.

The man who achieved seventh level is someone for whom the spirit has become more important than worldly problems. This level is the spiritual teachers of humanity, and the number 118 corresponds to it.

“On average, it takes a man about three years to move from one level to another. Someone can make a breakthrough in a year, someone in seven years, and someone remains at the same level,” I finished.

“My husband is still on the second,” Zhenya concluded.

“And mine,” Nastya sighed. — What determines a man’s level and what are these strange numbers? - she became interested.

The main thing is love, the rest can be learned

- The numbers correspond to a certain level of energy of a man, what flows of money and power he is able to hold. The more energy a person has, the greater his level of influence, the more money he has and the higher his level of power.

Money is directed, structured sexual and vital energy. But female energy exists in its pure form. There is a lot of it, but it is chaotic. A woman is a source of energy that lifts a man to reveal his potential.

A woman gives a man her energy, and he turns it into money, giving it structure through his center of will. The more energy a woman has, the more opportunities she can give a man. Sometimes a woman has a huge resource of energy, given to her by nature or developed, but if a man has a weak center of will, he will not be able to turn this energy into money. And vice versa - a man can have a very strong volitional center, but if a woman has wasted her energy or gone into the masculine, then the man has nothing to transform into cash flow.

“So,” Lenka shook her head, listening to my explanations, “should I get married or not?”

“Choose love, everything else can be created,” I answered.

- You won’t be satisfied with promises! I need a detailed action plan. I finally found the man of my dreams, and he is as poor as a paper rat.

“Well, he’s not that poor,” Zhenya said indignantly. - By the way, the five of us live on sixty thousand.

“The three of us are worth a hundred,” Nastya sighed, “but the trouble is that I earn it, and I’m incredibly tired of it.”

“So you think,” Lenka summed up my theoretical calculations, “that with the right woman, any man can become successful and rich.”

- Yes, if there is love, passion, faith in a man, support, inspiration, etc. Then money is a matter of time, desire, knowledge and practice.

- Are you saying that you know how to make your husband a millionaire and you can teach us this? — Zhenya looked at me questioningly. - After all, you’ve already done yours!

“Yes,” I nodded. “Although I just helped him become what he wanted and was able to become!” A woman helps a man to unlock his potential, strengthens and fills him. A Forbes magazine study was recently published,” I continued. “They interviewed ten billionaires and several dozen more multimillionaires to find out what they had in common. It turned out that there were only three points.

First. They are not afraid of defeats, learning valuable lessons from them. One of the billionaires made a billion during the IT boom. When his project failed, he lost everything, but did not lose heart. Now he has half a billion again. This is about the question of masculine qualities and a strong strong-willed center,” I added.

- Second. They are always looking for new, innovative sources of income, using their talents and strengths. The owner of a chain of gas stations who thought of selling snacks at them was considered an eccentric. And now he is a multi-billionaire. This speaks of his sexual and creative potential,” I voiced my vision.

“And most importantly,” I paused, looking around at my girlfriends, “a successful marriage!” A wife should support her husband and believe in him. This is the main thing, according to all the richest people in the world! — I finished pathetically and continued without pathos: “Which is quite understandable.”

“Okay, I’m ready to try to invest my energy in Ruslan,” Lenka suggested. - Where do we get it from?

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It so happens that women today are increasingly the main breadwinners in the family. This trend is observed mainly in large cities, which is understandable: in megacities there are a lot of opportunities for the fair sex today. Take it - I don’t want it! Well, as you know, with men, in general, things are not very good - there is a shortage of good ones. Therefore, ladies increasingly prefer to rely only on themselves.

The fact is that the form of family relationships, when the wife earns more than her husband, has no historical roots. This is a completely new trend. Therefore, it is psychologically difficult for men to adapt to the new realities of life. Since the owner of the house has always been the one who feeds the family. The logic is clear: if you don’t feed your family, then what kind of boss are you? But if not the owner, then who? And here psychologists warn that, as a rule, in families where women earn significantly more, men take on the role of son. Judge for yourself: if a wife feeds, then how is she different from a mother? Psychologically, a man begins to perceive his wife as a mother. Is it possible to have sexual relations with your mother?

Therefore, in families where a woman earns more, sexual discord often occurs. A man becomes sexually cold towards a woman, and a woman, on the contrary, needs love, support and affection more than ever. Hence the quarrels, resentments, misunderstandings. Solving such a problem is not so easy.

Psychologists assure that, according to statistics, husbands of successful wives do not strive for high earnings. And after 35 years they completely give up. It is interesting that, despite the fact that the woman takes on the role of breadwinner, she is still left with household chores. Not all men can come to terms with the fact that their spouse is more successful; many representatives of the stronger sex develop complexes on this basis, and reproaches and barbs are directed at their spouse. What to do?

• NEVER focus on the fact that you earn more!
• Open a joint account where you will put your money, without having to figure out who contributed how much this month. This is COMMON money!
• Plan big purchases TOGETHER! Well, so that the new refrigerator or car does not become a surprise for him.
• Praise your spouse often. Don't let his complexes develop!
• Some psychologists even advise women not to disclose the full amount of their income to their spouse. But, you must admit, buying a designer crocodile leather bag is not so easy to hide. It happens that a man simply cannot come to terms with his inadequacy and begins to assert himself by humiliating his wife and going to the left. In the first case, if you wish, you can contact a psychologist, in the second, you will need a psychologist.

Well, now your questions:

Olga, 29 years old, St. Petersburg

It so happened that after my husband and I took out a loan for an apartment, both he and I lost our jobs. We worked in the same company. It’s impossible to find something with the same salary. In general, our monthly earnings are only enough to make the loan payment. There's not even enough left over for groceries. We live on debt. And this debt is growing. I'm constantly on edge. My hair began to turn gray. The relationship with my husband has deteriorated. I don't know what to do. I didn’t think that I would go through financial difficulties so hard. I'm literally shaking. I’m used to a certain standard of living, but here I can’t even afford to go for a manicure. I can't afford anything at all. Help with advice. How to survive this?

– Olga, your condition is understandable. As a rule, in a situation of financial difficulties, it is difficult to look at the situation from different angles. Therefore, I suggest you go beyond the usual view of the situation and think about how else you can act in these circumstances, in addition to the usual loan repayment. To do this, you can use the following method: take a large sheet of paper, for example Whatman paper, draw or write a problem in the center - repaying a loan for an apartment, draw arrows from the center and write a wide variety of solutions. Imagine, write both the simplest options and the most daring assumptions, for example: sell an apartment at 20% higher than the market value, find a high-paying job in another city, for example in Moscow with housing, defer loan repayment for three years, and so on. The task is to find as many ways out of the current situation as possible. You can go further and from the received options again draw arrows to ways to implement your plan.

Ask your husband to do the same, then compare and see what happens, and do some additional brainstorming together. This method will allow you to expand your thinking, understand what options are most optimal for you, and begin moving towards solving your issue.

Masha, 27 years old, Ekaterinburg

Hello! I am currently on maternity leave. The husband provides for the family entirely. But I constantly have to ask him for money. For food, utilities, children's needs, and so on. He cannot simply transfer a certain amount to my card. This is a problem for him. And he won’t leave a single ruble until I tell him about it. Honestly, this is humiliating for me. I cried and tried to talk to him calmly. Like peas hitting a wall! Honestly. I'm thinking about divorce. There is no more strength to fight such greed. What should I do?

- Hello Olga! Thank you for sharing your situation. If I understand correctly, you feel great resentment, pain, even thoughts of divorce due to the fact that your spouse does not give you money without your prior request, but, according to you, he still fully provides for your life and family needs. That is, the problem, in fact, is only that you need to ask for a transfer of money, he does not refuse you the money itself, you do not have a shortage of it, right? At the same time, you regard the restriction in access to money as an insult, it seems to you that you are not understood, and this leads you to despair. Think about whether I have correctly outlined the logical chain of your thoughts and feelings.

I can imagine that now you see divorce as a way out of this situation. Yes, it can solve the problem we identified: you don't have to ask. But think about the following questions, try to answer them as rationally as possible, abstracted from emotions. How traumatic might divorce be for you and your children now? Will you be able to provide for your family at the same level as your spouse? What is more important to you: a full, wealthy family or maintaining your self-esteem, which, in your words, is often infringed upon by requests. There are no right or wrong answers to these questions, there are only your thoughts on this matter.

And of course, I would like to add that often issues of distribution of the family budget are discussed by partners before the wedding or in the initial stages of life together. And it’s completely normal that sometimes you have to renegotiate due to a changed situation, for example, the birth of a child. Don’t be afraid to tell your spouse about your concerns and inconveniences; offer your own solution to the problem, enter into a dialogue, a two-way discussion. Of course, adults can accept the other person's point of view and together come up with a mutually beneficial, mutually satisfying solution. All the best!

– Allocate a certain amount from your salary for your expenses, for which you do not report to anyone, and make such purchases from it. However, if everything is in order in the relationship, the man calmly reacts to any woman’s whims. Therefore, it is worth answering a number of questions honestly. Think about what is behind your husband’s concern? How does he perceive your income: as your own or as family income? If this is common money, then what contribution does it make to your family life (for example, the wife earns money, and the husband takes care of everyday life and raising the children). How would he like you to spend it? Who makes decisions about money distribution and spending in your family? What hurts him: the very fact of purchase; spending a large amount; the fact that you make the decision yourself; the fact that it is not he who pleases you with new things; the fact that his earnings are less than yours?

Or maybe you are secretly proud of the success you have achieved, and internally put yourself above your husband? Then it’s not just another bag that causes his anger... It seems to me that the optimal solution is to allocate “pocket money” for yourself and spend it at your own discretion, but it would also be useful to understand the relationship with your husband and money.

So. What if a man earns less than me? We are, of course, not talking about a couple of tens of dollars, but about a significant difference. For example, he brings home $1000, and she brings home $2000. Or he easily earns $2,500, and she has a monthly turnover of 10-15 thousand dollars in her business. (Dollars - so that everyone understands, otherwise this is an international party).

What is the trap if a man earns less? And then the question arises that you want to make a decision - to get involved with this man or not. Or whether to continue building a relationship with him if you are already in one.

There is one important point and I want to focus your attention on it, because it will help you make a better decision in such relationships.

What you're missing is that you won't be dealing with a smaller amount, but with a smaller person's mindset. With a person who operates with smaller amounts, but with larger problems.

Where you see opportunities, he will see obstacles. Where you see a barrier of 40 centimeters, which you jokingly step over, he will see an insurmountable Chinese wall.

And if you do not plan to break up with him, you will have two options for developing the relationship. Your task will be either: to drag the man to your level of financial thinking, or to sponsor him.

In both cases, you will not act as an equal, equal woman. Because in the first case you will be a “teacher-mom-coach” with a rescuer complex. In the second - just a “mom-sponsor”.

Neither here nor there, in fact, you will not get a male partner. Because you can drag a person to your level only outside of a relationship. And only on HIS strong initiative, when the earth is burning under his feet from how he wants to change his life! When he sees your level and begins to strive for it. MYSELF. Not "MOM". And in order to be close to you, he begins to change his level of thinking. Or not.

And one more thing - in a relationship you will not be dealing with a specific person who looks after you beautifully and even does cunnilingus well. In everyday life, you will deal with a set of his financial cockroaches and his financial habits. You will shrink instead of dreaming and developing a plan to achieve your dream.
You will save money instead of making plans to enslave the world with your bright business ideas. You will look for a cheaper hostel when traveling instead of hiring a yacht with a captain.

Sooner or later, if you continue to develop, this state of affairs will begin to irritate you. You will most likely not be able to be in balance with this person if there are no steps in development on his part. And you will either start to lash out at him over trifles (because you have put a taboo on the main topic, and you need to throw out your irritation), or you will find yourself a lover according to your status for balance, or you will start to get seriously ill because strong feelings are suppressed.

Therefore, even before a relationship with such a man, you should see whether he is taking steps in development and whether he is developing. What other set of values ​​do you have in common (except for your views on money? Or are you different everywhere?) And if its pace of development is quite high, and at the moment it just falls a little short of your financial level, it’s not scary. There is a chance. Or you share a huge amount of values, but his money is enough for a decent life and you are quite happy to maintain a separate budget and at the same time he will not whine and blow your mind, but will respect your strength and potential with dignity, and will not extinguish you because of your low self-esteem, and giving support is also a very viable option. If you find where there are a lot of them, post the location in the comments - the girls will quickly organize a queue there.

If the difference between the level of financial thinking is large, if there is a gap there and at the same time your man is not inclined to develop, then this is an all-in game in which the partner with the greater financial capacity will most likely lose. That is you.

You will focus on: “Let's spend less,” instead of: “How can we increase cash flow?” You will look for a third job instead of learning and developing the skill of quality rest. You will spend a lot of time arguing and trying to agree on how best to manage your money, and as a result, you will be exhausted and low in energy - which will NATURALLY affect YOUR financial flow, which will LEGALLY begin to get scarcer.

Is this relationship an investment of your time?

The environment really makes a difference. And your income will definitely drop to its level. Yes, perhaps you will pull it up a little, but the arithmetic average will remain at the same level.

Decide for yourself whether to get involved in these games. There are few princes. There really aren't enough for everyone. But is this a reason to glue disposable paper crowns at night? To stare at their chosen one every morning, declaring him their financial prince?

I teach in the course how to consciously build and choose your environment. In the program, girls review their social circle, grow self-esteem and create a healthy environment around themselves. And graduates study the more subtle nuances of relationships in the MAN-WOMAN-MONEY connection in the course “Free Surfing in Cash Flow”. Now we are finishing enrollment in the 16th stream of the “New Woman of the 21st Century” course, hurry up to get into it before the prices increase - let me remind you that on September 17 the cost of participation will be maximum.

And tell us in the comments - have you ever found yourself in situations where a man earned less? Share, did you leave the relationship or were you able to develop it further?

Do you remember what Gosha (aka Georgy Ivanovich) did in the film “Moscow Doesn’t Believe in Tears” when he found out that his beloved woman ranks high and earns several times more than him? He slammed the door and went into a deep binge, because he received deep psychological trauma. So, the question on the agenda is: what to do, if the husband earns less than the wife?

Let’s make a reservation right away: there are not so many classic lazy people who, lying on the couch, do not worry at all about how to support their family, only 9%. And we don’t take them into account now.

In general, according to polls by sociologists, 68% of men who find themselves in a similar situation say that they see nothing wrong with their wife earning more. They say that money is brought into the family by those who are better at it and who are luckier. In fact, this is only a semblance of calm. And in families where women are the breadwinners, various kinds of problems often arise.

One of the main causes of conflicts is centuries-old traditions, according to which a man is obliged to be the head of the family and support his household. It is sometimes very difficult for women to forgive their companions for their failures. So they begin to make claims: “You are not a man if you live off your wife!” Hence the constant scandals.

In turn, a man who does not earn enough, even if he does not show that he is embarrassed by his failures, internally experiences constant anxiety. According to statistics, 78% of men who do not work or earn little suffer from depression. Self-doubt can unsettle anyone. And often on a subconscious level, any will to win and desire to change anything is paralyzed. And again scandals will begin in the family.

To prevent the situation in the family from heating up, you need to develop the right tactics of behavior.

• Do not give your husband money from your own wallet for expenses. Keep the funds in a publicly accessible place. And don’t demand a full report on where he spent it (we don’t mean “drunks” and gambling enthusiasts: money should be kept as far away from such types as possible).
• Don't talk about finances all day long, even if the conversations are quite friendly.
• Don’t nag your husband and don’t give the example of some mutual friend who has made an excellent career and earns handsome money.
• At home, take a break from your independence, let your loved one take care of you.
• Let your husband help with the housework, but do not perceive this as his direct responsibility. Be sure to praise and thank. But you shouldn’t make a housewife out of men either, otherwise over time you will feel that you are becoming that same stone wall for your spouse.
• Consult with your husband on work matters, often talk about how important his support is to you.
• If your husband strives to become a wealthier man, help him with this. First of all, sincere faith in his success. Sometimes such a small amount is quite enough for the chosen one’s career to take off.