Many lonely or unsuccessful people wonder why others don’t want to communicate with them. There may be many reasons for this, but your isolation is not included in this list.
Everyone can be within themselves, think about their own things, but everyone must correctly show everyone around their intentions and respect. If you don't, people will simply turn away from you. In order for others to be drawn to you, you need to avoid mistakes, which will be discussed below.
Reason one: you don’t call your interlocutors by name
Psychologists say that at least sometimes you need to mention the name of your interlocutor in conversations. It's not so much whether you use this advice or not, but how often others use it. If at least one person calls your name during a dialogue when addressing you, then he or she will have more weight for you than anyone else. There is one very important trick for those who want to make a person like him more when meeting someone - you need to say his name. For example, you say my name is Elena, and they answer you: “And I’m Artem.” You say: “Very nice, Artem.” This has a very powerful effect. The person will immediately remember you and, what is much more important, he or she will remember that it is pleasant to communicate with you. If you have memory problems, society will still perceive it negatively, so write down names so you don't forget them.
Reason two: you only talk about topics that are interesting only to you
Think about whether everyone around you will be interested in hearing about your problems with children, a new diet, a new fitness trainer, a broken carburetor in the car, or politics. Take a closer look at people's reactions. It can be very revealing, because most people may not be interested in your stories about your personal life. People should want to ask you something if you tell something. If this does not happen, then no one is interested in your topics. Subsequently you will not be asked anything.
Another tip: don’t talk about politics and religion unless you want literally everyone to hate you. This is bad manners. Of course, this is not bad form for any society, but for most work groups it is terrible. If they don’t communicate with you after your monologues, then you are talking about the wrong topics.
Reason three: you only talk about yourself
Perhaps you are turning all the conversations on yourself. This is also incredibly annoying to everyone around. The person told an interesting story, and instead of saying your opinion about it, you start: “But I have...”.
You should only talk about yourself if you are asked something directly. Perhaps you are the person who constantly turns the topic to your loved one. You cannot do this under any circumstances unless you want to become an outcast. On the contrary, take an interest in other people after their monologues, ask them questions. Show interest, then they will quickly love you.
Reason four: you gossip and discuss others behind their backs
Nobody likes hypocrites, even if there are other hypocrites in the team besides you. Even if you really want to discuss your colleague’s new provocative dress with a friend or your boss’s new car with a friend, it is better not to do this. If you cannot abstract yourself from negative statements, then it is better not to say anything. Of course, rumors and gossip may be spread about you that you are pretending to be a saint, but no one is immune from this. Just avoid it without reproaching others for their sins. There are still a lot of good people, so they definitely won’t communicate with you if you constantly discuss someone with them behind their back. People understand that you can therefore discuss them too.
Reason five: your lack of confidence in conversation
People don't want to talk to someone who tries to say one thing but uses a lot of unnecessary words. Of course, this may not be fair to you, but unfortunately no one cares. There are few people who can understand others in this regard. Of course, this is not such a big reason to avoid you and not talk to you. But this irritates many people.
Reason six: you answer in monosyllables
There is no doubt, you most likely just don’t want to talk. This method of conducting a dialogue with someone who is not interesting to you can alienate other people. It is possible that you have high self-esteem, narcissism. This needs to be corrected, and as quickly as possible. People will not speak to someone who considers them to be inferior creatures. Here you will have to try to improve.
Reason seven: you constantly whine
Your life is filled with problems that you share with everyone. You can be understood because you always want to get some kind of approval, support, advice, but people get tired of your troubles, which are more familiar to them than their own.
Reason eight: you don't inspire respect
This problem can be called global, but light should be shed on the most important thing. You talk about one thing, but do something completely different. If your words contradict your actions, then you should take care of yourself. People avoid communicating with those who constantly lie or pretend.
Reason nine: you are not confident in introducing yourself to people
When you come to a place, you need to say hello and introduce yourself to everyone who doesn’t know you. This will show that you are inclined to dialogue and are ready to conduct it with everyone. Simply saying hello to everyone at once will not be a gross mistake, because this is what most people do. It is for this same reason that it is worth doing everything differently, so as not to attribute yourself to this majority.
It is very important to introduce yourself not only yourself, but also to introduce your companions to people you know. It will be easier for your companion to engage in conversation, and the people around you will automatically look more positively at you as a person who knows how to behave in society. The rules of good manners were not invented just like that.
For these nine reasons, many people may stop communicating with you or may not want to communicate with you. If you recognize yourself at several points, then this is even worse, but there is no need to hang your nose. You can become better, more popular and win people over if you try a little. Overcome the fear of communicationif you have it, because people who are too secretive also become outcasts, as well as those who are very talkative. Good luck and don't forget to press the buttons and
Unfortunately, it happens that after living for several years in marriage, at some point a woman realizes: “I have become completely uninteresting to my husband.” This is a problem as old as time. But having encountered it for the first time, each time it needs to be solved anew.
Why is this happening? What is the reason? What to do next? How to build a relationship when your husband seems to be not paying attention to you at all? Doesn't want to spend time in your company.
From such an attitude, a woman becomes gloomy, withdraws into herself, and closes herself in her problem. Or, on the contrary, she becomes nervous and irritable, often causing scandals. Of course, this is not good for the relationship. No need to create additional problems. You need to work with what you have.
In search of a solution, a woman often encounters such ridiculous advice: “be mysterious,” “always intrigue,” “learn to be first, second and third all rolled into one.” But wait! Were you so unique, dizzying, incredibly attractive at the very beginning of the relationship? Perhaps someone will answer: “Yes.” But most women, let's be honest, have never imagined something like this.
Nevertheless, your husband accepted you for who you are. After all, he found something in you. After all, he chose you as the only one with whom he proposed to spend the rest of his life together. Where did it all go? And why is he not interested now?
If a woman asks such a question, it means that everything was different before. This means there was interest, there was a warm relationship. What changed? Has it changed? Could the problem be far-fetched?
Relationships are one of the most complex psychological substances. It cannot be resolved in a day or two. Relationships need to be worked on. They need to be lined up.
Logically, everything is simple: a problem in a relationship can be solved by changing your attitude towards the problem. It is impossible to create interest by working only on appearance. Agree, your husband has known you very well for a long time. A change in hairstyle or clothing style will only cause surprise. For an hour, for a day, but not of interest for many years.
Of course, these techniques can be used to give yourself confidence. But such actions alone will not solve the problem. Look at your friends, acquaintances, strangers. Attractive, well-groomed women with an ideal figure. Are all of them, without exception, happy in their marriage? Of course not.
Nobody says you shouldn't take care of yourself. Beauty should always be a priority for a woman. Another thing is that external beauty must be supported by something else. People who have been married for many years generally cease to attach importance to the appearance of their spouse.
Don't create problems
How to regain your husband's interest? Imagine a person who has nothing to eat and nowhere to sleep. What do you think bothers him first? The opinions of others about him or other pressing problems? What does this mean?
Of course, this is an exaggerated example, but it is still indicative. A woman, puzzled by the situation: “My husband is no longer interested in me. What should I do?” most likely does not have more significant problems. A person is looking for a way out of the situation that worries him most, therefore, all other issues are not so important and not so acute.
Tip number one. Try to look at everything from the outside. Imagine yourself as a complete stranger. 
He enters your house. What does he see? What's the first thing that catches his eye? How does he see your family, your home? Take a look around. After all, it’s true, you don’t have so few reasons for joy? Cozy homely atmosphere, pleasant little things. The most valuable thing is the people you have, the health of your loved ones. How can you not be happy about this?
Try not to think of unnecessary reasons. Learn to be happy with what you have. Look around you, you have a lot of things. Surely you can be envied. Do you think someone would like to be in your place?
What is all this for? Most problems exist only in our heads. Are you sure that your husband is no longer interested in you? “He is not interested in me, what should I do?” Perhaps the reason for the difficulties is completely different. Maybe this is just your vision of the situation? Maybe the husband has a completely different point of view?
Do you want to object? “He doesn’t talk to me, doesn’t make contact. He’s not interested in me, he doesn’t want to share anything.” Is it because he is no longer interested? Was he always talkative and enthusiastically shared everything that was on his soul?
Men don't like to talk. It is a fact. They don't like to talk to women. Another thing is somewhere out there in the company of friends...
Make friends with your husband
It is believed that a man should always be strong. Of course, this stereotype affects them. Every man wants to appear strong. It is unlikely that he will tell his other half about all his experiences. After all, he should protect you and lend a shoulder to you, and not cry into your vest.
Tip number two. Imagine yourself in your man's place. You came home after a hard day at work. Perhaps there, at work, you encountered serious problems, someone really got on your nerves. It took you a long time to get home through endless traffic jams.
And now, finally, on the threshold of my home. What desire arises first? Chat? Should I talk? No, rather, get some sleep and rest. Lie in silence or switch to your favorite movie. Immerse yourself in a calm environment. A hearty dinner and a warm bed are sometimes all you need after a busy day.
Don't demand anything from your husband. Think about how YOU can help HIM? Leave him alone, let him come to his senses. It is unknown what is in his head, what problems he is going through. Let him be alone with himself. Perhaps he will come up to you when he gets bored and expresses a desire to chat.
When sailing in the same boat, you need to look in one direction in order to avoid obstacles in time. When a boat leaks, we need to work together to fix the problem. Try not to stand with your husband on opposite sides of the barricades. In a family, you are allies, not opponents. Don't fight each other, but help and support.
Perhaps a chill ran between you. An obstacle or even an abyss has arisen. Mentally imagine that you take your husband’s hand, hold on to him and offer him support. This exercise will help you get closer. After all, probably not only he is away from you, but you have also moved away from him.
Try to smooth out all the wrinkles on your forehead. Exhale. And tune in for the best. Become a friend to your husband. Not a friend with whom you can have fun and interesting time. And a friend for life. Respect his wishes, his opinion. Don't demand so much as offer your help. It will pay off for you in a big way. When he feels relaxed rather than tense in your presence, he will look at you with completely different eyes.
Take care of yourself
What does the expression mean: “My husband is no longer interested in me”? It shows that it wasn't always like this. Once it was interesting, once it was pleasant in each other's company. When did things go wrong?
After all, interest did not disappear immediately. This was preceded by events and situations. Think, analyze what has happened in your life lately? How did it influence you, how did it change you? Perhaps it was not your husband who changed his attitude, perhaps you yourself changed.
Tip number three. Don't think about how to attract your husband. Think about what you are doing to push him away? Maybe this is where the whole problem lies?
Take a look at yourself from the outside. How are you behaving? How do you look? What emotions do you evoke? Put yourself in your husband's shoes. How does he feel looking at you?
Perhaps you are going through a difficult period. A child has appeared, a bunch of new responsibilities, you can’t cope and no longer know what to do with yourself. Maybe you just got a new job or, on the contrary, lost it. A stressful situation unsettles you. There are some problems in your environment. You don’t find a place for yourself, you often get nervous and make trouble.
How interested would you be in communicating with such a person? There is no need to regard the husband’s detachment as indifference. Perhaps he is simply avoiding contact with you, sensing your tension. Maybe this way he doesn’t want to fall under the hot hand or, on the contrary, he gives you time to cool down. Or maybe he doesn’t see any interest on your part?
Maybe because of your problems and worries, you yourself have lost interest in yourself? Think about what emotions a person with an eternally sad, dissatisfied face evokes?
It is useless to look for tips on how to arouse your husband’s interest while you walk around with a bowed head and sad eyes, they will not help you.
Confident, balanced people always endear themselves to you. Knowing everything about themselves, and not trying to prove anything to anyone. Sparkling eyes and a slight smile are what is pleasant to look at.
Of course, if a woman is deeply stuck in depression, it will be quite difficult to light up her eyes and put on a smile. But you shouldn't do this either. You need to walk towards yourself with a light gait, and not rush headlong. By the way, there is a whole system with which you can get rid of depression, heavy thoughts, complexes, fears and much other mental rubbish forever. .
Think about ways to revive your zest for life. After all, there is something that interests you, captivates you. Give yourself more time. Find a balance between household chores and your personal ones. Alternate them. After doing something for your loved ones, do something for yourself. Give yourself plenty of rest. You don't have to cook a dinner party every day. Perhaps no one will appreciate your work. Perhaps your family attaches much less importance to this than you do.
If you need to be alone- lock yourself in the room. Take a walk outside. Go shopping. Make a pleasant purchase.
Put off things that are not necessary more often. Make choices in favor of your interests. Be interesting to yourself first. It is impossible to arouse sympathy in someone if you are tired of yourself. Take care of yourself. Cheer yourself up.
Sometimes a change of environment helps. You can go on a trip or just go out into nature. Perhaps playing sports will bring you pleasure. So, you can simultaneously take a break from household chores, take a walk and go out in public.
If you are tired of boredom and idleness, remember your interests. Think about topics that concern you. Get busy, find your place.
Understand that your husband is not interested in watching you suffer alone. Live life to the fullest. Deny yourself less pleasure. A woman who has a lot to do and a lot of her own interests, is cheerful, enthusiastic, and definitely able to attract attention.
Don't run from the problem. Try to understand its causes (and get rid of them). Don't blame your husband for everything. Take care of yourself. Spark your interest in life. Learn to enjoy the little things. When you are able to give yourself and others a good mood, interest and harmony in relationships will return.
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rPFPNH, EUMY IPFYFE ЪBCHPECHBFSH BCHFPTYFEF CH NHTSULPK LPNRBOYY, - ZPCHPTYFE P OYI, B MHYUYE UMKHYBKFE, KHUBUFCHHKFE CH YI DEMBY, OE PUKHTsDBKFE, OP UFBTBKFEUSH RTPUFP RPOSFSH Y RPDDETSBFSH. bFP MKHYUYK URPUPV.
eUMY YN OTBCHYFSHUS, OBRTYNET, TSCHVBMLB: URTBYCHBKFE P FPN, LHDB EBDYMY, YUFP RPKNBMY, LBL RPZPDB Y LPNBTSH:-), EUMY SING LPNRSHAFETAILY - RPYOFETEUHKFEUSH LBLYN Y-OYVKhDSH DEFBMSNY L LPNRSHAFETBN, URTPUYFE YI UPCHEFB.
sing RPYUKHCHUFCHHAF, YuFP chsch UYUYFBEFE YI BCHFPTYFEFPN ch LFPC PVMBUFY, TB PVTBEBEFEUSH UB UPCHEFPN, YuFP chsch GEOYFE YI DPCHETSEFE YN CH LFPN DEME. lBCDPNH NHTSYUYOE LFP RTYSFOP PUPOBCHBFSH.
lBL RPLBYSHCHBEF TSYOSH, NOPZYE NHTSYUYOSCH RPDUUPOBFEMSHOP YOFETEUHAFUS FENY DECHKHYLBNY, LPFPTSCHN YOFETEUEO YI NYT, YI DEMB, KHCHMEYUEOYS Y, LPOYUOP, BY UBN. hPF FBLPE RTPUFPE RTBCHYMP.
oP RTY LFPN OHTSOP RPNOYFSH, YuFP YUTENETOBS OBCHSYUYCHPUFSH Y OEDDPTPCHPE MAVPRSHFUFChP - CHTBZY MAVPZP PVEEOYS, B PUPVEOOOP U NHTSYuYOBNY. eUMY chShch RTPSCHYFE LFY LBYUEUFCHB, CHYDS, YuFP NHTSYUYOB HIPDIF PF PFCHEFB ABOUT CHPRTPUSCH, LPFPTSCHCHCH ENKH BDBEFE, - PUFBOPCHYFEUSH.
yOBYE NHTSYUYOB RPYUKHCHUFCHHEF OE chBYE TSEMBOYE EZP RPOSFSH, B DBCHMEOYE U ChBYEK UFPTPOSH, TSEMBOE LPOFTPMYTPCHBFSH EZP, B LFP HTSE UPCHUEN DTHZIE YUKHCHUFCHB, OYUEZP PVEEZP OE YNEAEE U CHBYNOSCHN YOFETEUPN CH PVEEOYY.
th EEE. chBTsOP OE FPMSHLP RPMOPUFSHA RPZTHTSBFSHUS CH TSYOSH Y DEMB NHTSYUYO, U LPFPTSCHNY CHSH PVEBEFEUSH, OP Y OENOPZP RPUCHSEBFSH YI CH UCHPY DEMB, YOFETEUSCH, KHCHMEYUEOYS.
LBTSDSCHK NHTSYUYOB PVSHYUOP YOFETEUHEFUS NOPZYN, YuFP RTPYUIPDYF CHPLTHZ OEZP, RPFPNH Y NBMEOSHLIK LKHUPYUEL TSYYOY, LPFPTSCHK CHCH ENKH RTYPFLTPPEFE, RPNPTSEF ENKH MHYUYE UPUFBCHYFSH "RPMOHA LBTFYOH NYTB" :)
rPFPNH ZPCHPTYFE P UEVE, OE ЪBLTSCHBKFEUSH, OE ULTSHCHBKFE UCHPYI URPUPVOPUFEK, OP UFBTBKFEUSH YUKHCHUFCHPCHBFSH, YOFETEUOP MY NHTSYUYOE FP, YuFP chsch ENKH ZPCHPTYFE.
mHYUYE CHUEZP, EUMY RPRTPVHEFE TBUULBBFSH P UCHPYI DEMBY CH CHUEMPN, OERTYOKHTSDEOOPN FPOE, OE "ЪBZTHTSBS" UPVEUEDOYLPCH.
fBL LBL NHTSYUYOSCH FETREFSH OE NPZHF, LPZDB YN TsBMHAFUS, LPZDB YUBUBNY ZPCHPTSF P UCHPYI YUKHCHUFCHBI, BNPGYSI, OBUFTPEOYSI, - MHYUYE CHUE LFP RTYVETEYUSH DMS TBZPCHPTPCH U RPDTHZBNY.
b U NHTSYUYOBNY DEMYFSHUS YUFPTYEK UCHPYI DEKUFCHYK . TBUULBTSYFE, OBRTYNET, ZDE VSHCHMY, YuFP CHYDEMY, YuFP OPChPE KHOBMY, YuFP RPYUIFBMY YMY RPUNPFTEMY.
NHTSYUOBN CHBTsOP CHYDEFSH OE RTPUFP UETPE UKHEEUFChP, LPFPTPPE RPMOPUFSHA CHOINBEEF YN, OP RPMOPGEOOKHA MYUOPUFSH, LPFPTBS YOFETEUOB UBNB RP UEVE.
rПФПНХ OBKDYFE UEVE KHCHMEYEOYE, IPVVY, EUMY KH CHBU EZP OEF. rKHUFSH NHTSYUYOSCH CHYDSF, YuFP Y ChSCH YUEN-FP RTPZHEUUYPOBM, VKhDSH LFP "CHLHUOSCH VMYOYUYULY" YMY UCPE DEMP, HAF DPNB YMY PUPVEOOOSCHK UFYMSH PDETDSCH.
rПФПНХ TBUULBYSCHBKFE P UEVE - MHYUYE CHUEZP P RPVEDBY, DPUFYTSEOYSI Y OBIPDLBI, CHEDSH NHTSYUYOSCH DEMSFUS U DTHZYNY CH RETCHHA PYUETEDSH LFYN, B OEKHDBYUY RETETZYCHBAF CH PJOPYUEUFCHE. rPFUFPNH OE OBCHSCHBKFE YN UCHPY RTPVMENSCH.
OP EUMY YUFP-FP UETSHEYOPE - RPRTPUYFE YI RPNPEY YMY UPCHEFB. NHTSYUYOSHCH MAVSF RPNPZBFSH TsEOEYOBN, YUKHCHUFCHPCHBFSH UCHPA UYMKH Y NHTSEUFChP. b HDBUOBS RPNPESH TSEOOEYOE - LFP Y IPTPYYK RPCPD VHI ZPTDPUFY:)
lFP LBUBEFUS, LPOYUOP, OE FPMSHLP OBLPNSHI NHTSYUYO Y DTHJEK, OP Y chBYEZP MAVINPZP. rP'ChPMSKFE ENKH RP'BVPFYFSHUS P CHBU Y GEOYFE EZP RPNPESH.
rPFPNH RTBCHYMP No. 5- VHDSHFE YOFETEUOPK MYUOPUFSHA, DEMYFEUSH UCHPYNY KHUREYBNY U NKHTSYUYOBNY, DPCHETSKFE YI RPNPEY Y UPCHEFKH.
b PE CHUEI OEMPCHLYI UYFKHBGYSI chBU CHSHCHTHYUYF YUKHCHUFChP ANPTB, KHMSHCHVLB, DPVTBS YHFLB, YOFETEUOBS YUFPTYS.
EUMY CHCH UPCHETYOOOP CHUEN LFYN OE CHMBDEEFE - CHURPNOFE CH FENKH LBKHUSCH YYUFPTYYY CHBYEK TSYYOY, UNEYOSCHE TBUULBSCHY RTYLMAYUEOYS RPDTHZ Y OBLPNSHCHI.
bFP RPNPTSEF TBTSDYFSH MAVKHA OBRTSSEOOKHA PVUFBOPCHLH.
yFBL, ANPT, CHEUEMPE OBUFTPEOYE Y TBDPUFOBS KHMSHCHVLB - chBYE PTKHTSIE OPNET 6.
oh, YuFP Ts, LFPF CHPRTPU NSCH TBBPVTBMY PYUEOSH RPDTPVOP, B FERTSH DBCHBKFE LPUOENUS EEE PDOPZP LBYUEUFCHB, LPFPTPPE PYUEOSH OTBCHYFSHUS NHTSYUYOBN.
NHTSYUYOSCH, CH PFMYYUYE PF OBU, TsEOEYO, - PYUEOSH RTPUFSHCH, RTEDULBKHENSHCHY RTSNPMYOEKOSCH CH UCHPYI RPUFKHRLBI, DEKUFCHHAF RP ЪBTBOEE OBNEYOOOPNH RMBOKH, IPTPYP RTPDKHNSCHBS UCHP YYBZY.
dMS OYI TsEOYOB, UP UCHPEK UNEOPK OBUFTPEOYK, MEZLBS Y OERTEDULBKHENBS, U NOPTSEUFCHPN OEYYCHEUFOSHI RETEFELBAEYI DTHZ CH DTHZB BNPGYK Y YUKHCHUFCH - RTPUFP ЪБЗБДЛБ.
yNEOOOP RPFPNH NHTSYUYO FBL RTYCHMELBEF CH TSEOEYOBI OERPUTEDUFCHOOPUFSH.
lPZDB TSEOYOB OE UFTENYFSHUS YuFP-FP DPLBYSCHBFSH YMY OBCHSCHCHBFSH, OP CH FP TSE CHTENS Y OE UFEUOSEFUS RTPSCHYFSH UEVS, TBULTSHCHFSH UCHPY NSHUMY, YUKHCHUFCHB, LNPGYY.
yNEOOOP FBLBS TsEOYOB Y KhDYCHMSEF NHTSYUYO, CHEDSH CHEDEF EUVS FBL, LBL YUKHCHUFCHHEF.
DKHNBA, YuFP ЪDEUSH OE UFPYF Y ZPCHPTYFSH P FPN, YuFP CHUE LFP DPMTSOP VSHFSH VEЪ OZBFYCHB Y CH TBNLBI RTYMYUYK:)
rPDTPVOEE PV LFPN chsch NPTSEFE RTPYUYFBFSH NPEK UFBFSHE " pYUBTPCHBOYE OERTEDULBKHENPK TSEOUFCHEOOPUFY "
CHEDYFE EUVS MEZLP, EUFEUFCHEOOP Y OERTYOKHTSDEOOOP. ЪБУЭН УФТПИФШ Ъ УЭВС УЭМПЧЛБ, ЛППТШЧН ШЧЧ ОСХМСЭФЭУШ?
NOPZIE DECHKHYLY Y TSEOOEYOSCH CH PVEEUFCHE NHTSYUYO UFBTBAFUS CHEUFY EUVS UPCHETYOOOP RP-DTHZPNH, YUEN CH PVSHYUOPK TSYOY.
sing YUBUFP OBDECHBAF ABOUT UEWS NBULH VPMEE KHUREYOPK YMY PUEOSH KHNOPK, OEDPUFKHROPK LPTPMECHSH YMY PVCHPTPTSYFEMSHOPK LPLEFLY.
fY NBULY, LPOYUOP, NEYBAF OBN UBNYN, OE DBAF RTPSCHYFSH UEVS RP-OBUFPSEENH MEZLP, EUFEUFCHEOOP.
rPYUENKH TSE NSCH CHEDEN EUVS OE FBL, LBL PVSHYUOP?
YuBUFSH TsEOEYO OBDECHBEF NBULKH, YuFPVSH ЪBEIFYFSHUS PF NHTSYUYO, RPUFBCHYFSH FBLHA "NBMEOSHLHA UFEOPYULKH" NETSDH OIN Y UPVPK, YuFP YuBUFP CHSHCHBOP OEZBFYCHOSCHN PRSHFPN PVEEOYS Y PFOPYEOIK U NHTSYUYOBNY CH HER RTPYMPN.
y LFYN TSEOOEYOBN PYUEOSH CHBTsOP OBKHUYFSHUS PFLTSHCHBFSHUS y VShchFSH UPVPK, CHEDSH, ЪBLTSCHCHBSUSH UCHPEK NBULPK PF NHTSYUYO, POY PFZPTBTTSYCHBAFUS y PF IPTPYEZP PVEEOYS, y PF D PMZYI FARMERS CHBYNOSCHI PFOPYEOYK, LPFPTSCHE NPZMY VSHCH UFETEFSH PVIDSCH Y RTPVMENSH RTPYMPZP.
dTHZBS YBUFSH TsEOEYO UFBTBEFUS RTPUFP LBBBFSHUS MHYUYE, YUEN EUFSH ABOUT UBNPN DEM.
eUMY X OEE, OBRTYNET, CHPPVEE OEF PVTBPCHBOYS - POB ULBCEF, YUFP HYUIFSHUS CH YOUFYFHFE. NOPZYE DECHKHYLY IPFSF VSHFSH VPMEE DETILYYY OEBCHYUINSHNYY, IPFS ABOUT UBNPN DEME POY UIMSHOP RTYCHSCHCHBAFUS Y RETETSYCHBAF. lFP-FP UFBOPCHYFSHUS YTPOYUOPK Y OEDPUFKHROPK, IPFS CH ZMHVYOE UETDGB TsDEF FPZP, LFP EE PFPZTEEF.
ъDEUSH LFP HCE OE RTPUFP NBULY, OE RTPUFP ЪBEIFB.
ъDEUSH ULCHPIYF PZTPNOBS OEHCHETEOPUFSH CH UEVE, OEKHNEOYE FBLPK DECHKHYLY YMY TSEOOYOSCH RTYOSFSH EUVS RPMOPUFSHHA UP UCHPYNY OEDPUFBFLBNY, UMBVPUFSNY Y DPUFPYOUFCHBNY, RPMAVYFSH EUVS.
y FBLYN RPCHEDEOYEN, LPZDB POB RTYDHNSCHCHBEF FP, YuEZP CH OEK OEF, POB UFBCHYF UCHPY DPUFYTSEOYS y UCHPY LBUEUFCHB IBTBLFETB OBNOPZP OITSE RTYDHNBOOSCHI.
bFB PUEOSH OYLBS UBNPPGEOLB UYMSHOP NEYBEF MAVPK TsEOEYOE CH TSYOY. OE RPЪCHPMSEF MEZLP UFTPYFSH ZBTNPOYUOSCH PFOPYEOYS U NHTSYUYOBNY, LBL DTHTSEULYE, FBL Y MAVPCHOSCHE.
rПФПНХ, EUMY FBLPE RTYUHFUFCHHEF Y CH CHBU, RTPY'CHEDYFE "RETEPGEOLH GEOOPUFEK" CHBYEZP IBTBLFETB. rPTBDHKFEUSH FEN LBYEUFCHBN, URPUPVOPUFSN, DPUFYTSEOYSN, LPFPTSHCHE EUFSH CH BU, OBKDYFE Y TBULTPKFE UCHPY RMAUSH, B OE UFBTBKFEUSH RTYLTSCHFSH NYOHUSCH.
OE UFBTBKFEUSH LBBBFSHUS MKHYUYE, KHNOEE, DPUFPKOEE, YUEN CHSC EUFSH, B RTPUFP TBULTPKFE, OBRTYNET, UCHPE KHNEOYE CHCHUMKHYBFSH Y RPOSFSH, RTYZPFPCHYFSH CHLHUOPE VMADP YMY LTBUYCHP HLTBUYFSH DPN, UFYMSHOP PDEFSHUS YMY RPDVPDTYFSH DTHZPZP YUEMPCHELB.
OE UFEUOSKFEUSH VSHFSH UPVPK. hShch - FBLBS, LBL EUFSH - EDYOUFCHEOOBS CH NYTE.
rPFPNH UNEMP RTPSCHMSKFE UEVS, VKhDShFE PFLTSCHFSH. y OE ChBTsOP, YuFP ChSCH UDEMBEFE YuFP-FP OE FBL, YMY LFP-FP ChBU OE PGEOIF.
ZMBCHOPE - YuFP chBYI OBUFPSEYE DTHYSHS VHDHF GEOIFSH chBU MAVPC.
y YN OE CHBTsOP, LBLPE KH chBU PVTBPCHBOYE, KHNEEFE MY chsch ZPFPCHYFSH y DETSYFE MY DPN h RPTSDLE. dMS OYI ChBTsOP - LBLBS chShch UBNB.
rPFPNH, DBCE RTY OBLPNUFCHE U NHTSYUOBNY OE OBDECHBKFE NBULH, OE RTYDHNSCHBKFE P UEVE, OE RTYHLTBYCHBKFE. YuFPVSH RPFPN X NHTSYUOSCH OE VSHMP TBUBTPCHBOYK Y UATRTYPCH :)
YuBUFP Y UBNY NHTSYUOSCH YUKHCHUFCHHAF OEYULTEOOPUFSH Y OEEUFEUFCHEOOPUFSH FBLPZP RPCHEDEOYS - Y FPCE OE TBULTSHCHBAFUS.
rPFPNH chBYB OERPUTEDUFCHOOPUFSH- MKHYUYEE LBYUEUFChP, LPFPTPPE RPNPTSEF CHSHCHBFSH Y KHDETSBFSH H NKHTSYUYOBI YOFETEU L chBN Y TBDPUFSH PF PVEEOYS U chBNY.
yNEOOOP YЪ OEZP TPTSDBEFUS OBUFPSEBS TSEOUFCHEOOPUFSH, VE OBIZTBOOPUFY YUTENETOPZP LPLEFUFCHB.
VHDSHFE UPVPK, CHEDYFE UEWS OERPUTEDUFCHEOOP, - chBYE RTBCHYMP No. 7.
OH, CHPF NSCH Y DPVTBMYUSH DP LPOGB OBYEZP TBZPCHPTB P FPN, LBL MHYUYE CHUEZP PVEBFSHUS, LBL CHEUFY UEWS, YUFPVSH NHTSYUYOE U OBNY VSHMP YOFETEUOP.
nsch OBYMY UNSH CHBTSOSCHI RTBCHYM, LPFPTSHCHE LFPNH RPNPZBAF. yFBL,
1) YULTEOOSS DPVTPTSEMBFEMSHOPUFSH,
2) YOFETEU L DEMBN NKHTSYUYOSCH Y EZP UFTENMEOYSN,
3) HNEOYE ESP RPDDETSBFSH, PGEOIFSH EZP HUMYS,
4) CHOINBFEMSHOP Y U YOFETEUPN UMHYBFS,
5) VSHFSH YOFETEUOPK MYUOPUFSHA, DEMYFSHUS UCHPYNY KHUREYBNY, KHCHMEYOOYSNY, DEMBNY.
6) ANPT, CHUEMPE OBUFTPEOYE Y TBDPUFOBS KHMSHCHVLB,
7) hBYB OERPUTEDUFCHEOOPUFSH, EUFEUFCHEOOPUFSH, TSEOUFCHEOOPUFSH.
khCHETEOB, YuFP CHUE LFY LBUEUFCHB Y RTBCHYMB RPNPZHF chBN H MAVPK VUEEDE U NHTSYUYOBNY YUKHCHUFCHPCHBFSH UEVS MEZLP, DPMZP KHDETSYCHBS YI YOFETEU.
TsEMBA chBN IPTPYEZP, YOFETEUOPZP PVEEOYS U NHTSYUYOBNYY TBULTSHFYS CH UEVE OPCHSHCHI ZTBOEK FBLPK ЪBZBDPUOPK TSEOULPK RTYCHMELBFEMSHOPUFY.
YULTEOOE chBYB, eLBFETYOB zhMYLPR.
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rPDRYUBFSHUS ABOUT TBUUSCHMPYULH "RKhFSH TsEOEYOSCH." CHUE UELTEFSH MAVCHY" NPTsOP ЪDEUSH.
Three years ago I broke up with a guy I had been dating for 4.5 years. I broke up when I realized that I didn’t love him and was tired of endless quarrels and reproaches. I know that he still loves me, but I don’t want to go back to him. But since then I haven’t been able to build relationships with other guys. I just seem to meet a guy, a relationship begins to develop, a month and a half passes - he leaves me and either does not explain the reason at all (he simply stops calling, writing, tries not to get noticed when I call, ignores me), or says that he is not ready for serious relationship. As a result of such disappointments, I began to develop a complex, I began to be afraid to start new relationships, I began to blame myself for simply not knowing how to communicate with guys, perhaps they were bored with me. I didn’t start a relationship with anyone for a long time, I thought I couldn’t stand it if they left me again. I have many friends, including guys, they all tell me that it’s not about me, that they would all dream of such a girl, but nevertheless, I am alone. Now, after a long break, I started dating a guy: for the first two weeks everything was fine, but every day I feel that his interest is disappearing. We've been dating for a little over a month, and there's already nothing to talk about. Maybe he's bored with me, but I don't have much fun with him either. What should I change in myself? How to become more interesting to guys? How to find that zest in yourself that attracts more than just a couple of months?
Marina, Novosibirsk, 23 years old / 09/23/09
Our experts' opinions
Alyona
Well, let's say there is one such remedy... Its name is banal, of course, but what can you do - it has been worn out for many centuries. The remedy is love. You can at least start with falling in love as a less serious dose of this remedy. A girl in love is already a girl with a twist, because she is not like everyone else. She speaks differently to her lover, behaves differently, and if the guy has mutual sympathy for her, it is possible that from a little love a big love will be born. Maybe, of course, this won’t happen, but still there will be some kind of bright aura around the girl, which makes others who are not involved in her secret nevertheless strive to be closer to her. It has been noted more than once that a lonely woman who does not experience strong feelings rarely attracts men, while a woman in love often becomes attractive to many men. Vibes... Aura... Pheromones... Hormones... In general, there is something there that attracts them and makes them fly like butterflies to a fire. And you're not in love. Nothing even close to that. There is not a single warm word addressed to at least one of the guys you were with. You are already bored again, you are no longer having fun with him. What does it mean? It's just not your character. Instead of calming down, doing other things, remaining open to real feelings, you are looking for a guy to fill the vacancy of your boyfriend. Just like a HR worker, honestly. Free yourself from the idea that you need a boyfriend. This makes it very difficult to do the right thing. Instead of waiting for that one, you grab the first suitable candidate with one thought: just don’t get off the hook like those who came before him. But there is nothing real behind this desire. So when you get to know each other a little better, you lose interest in each other. None of you (yes, yes, you too!) wants a continuation. Why? Because no chemical reaction occurred. Love didn't happen. So what is there to regret?
Sergey
I don't quite understand why you need all this? Judging by what is written, you are interested in guys simply because you need to have such a miracle on your farm. It's supposed to be like that. The girl must have a boyfriend, they meet for a while, talk, then kiss, after which they get married and live as a family. Clear, clear, logical. Everything is correct, purely technically this is how it should be. Well, with some variations, of course, but in general it’s correct. There’s just one big “but”. There must also be feelings between a guy and a girl. In general, everything usually starts with them. In your options so far, as I understand it, the opposite is happening. You choose a guy to date. Note, not because you liked him and something woke up in your chest, but because you need to meet someone. Then you walk and talk for a while, because what else can you do with a person who, excuse me, has nothing to do with him? As a result, everything ends. Moreover, it seems to me that in all this you also constantly play a leading role. That is, you choose, you take them out for a walk, you try to entertain, you want to please. It's not the guy who does all this, but you. Well, what kind of guy would like this? I think it would be better if you focused on some other interests for a while. Study, career, sports or some hobby. Take a break from the constant thought of finding a partner. Become interesting to yourself. And then men will appear around you who will be interested in you and who will make all sorts of proposals themselves. Although, maybe you don’t need these louts at all? There are so many pretty girls around.
Good afternoon
I have a problem, I don’t know how serious it can be, but I know one thing for sure: it makes me an unhappy person. I am 23 years old and I feel a lack of communication with people, in other words, people do not communicate with me. Why?
I'll just write it as it is. No choice of words. As a child, I was a very sociable girl, as my mother says. It was hard to make friends at school, because I couldn’t find people with whom I would be interested. I talked with one girl or another, and so on until the 9th grade! But in the end I found such people - 2 girlfriends. At first I communicated with them separately, but later we began to spend time together. And they, to put it mildly, “pushed me out” of their communication. It was just the last grade at school - 11. They continued to communicate with me, but purely mediocre. They went out without me, didn’t invite me along, spent their weekends mostly without me. In other words, I just saw that they were doing well without me. And, if I hadn’t been in their “friendship,” then no one would have been particularly upset. In addition, one of my girlfriends actually betrayed me several times, but I simply forgave her. Since I didn’t have other people who would communicate with me. This situation greatly influenced me, since friendly communication is very valuable to me. And it was a shame that at the end of my school years, I didn’t have a single friend left. There were just old acquaintances left.
Then I went to Kyiv to go to college. And here I also found 2 girls with whom I became friends. And we spent time together too. But according to the well-trodden scenario, I saw that they were happy without my communication. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. My opinion doesn’t make me too happy, because I think that they are simply not interested in me. Boring. And the conclusion is that I am a boring person. Who likes to know this?
Okay, God bless them. They have fun without me, they are more interesting without me, I didn’t stop them from doing this, because I was tired of stuffing myself into their social circle. I continue to communicate with all of them, since I have no more friends than others.
After studying, I found a job, but even there I could not make friends with anyone. I start communicating with someone. and I just see that the person is bored with me. But new people came and were accepted and accepted into their circles very quickly, which cannot be said about me. I worked at the first agency for 2.5 years, and was never able to make friends with anyone. I talked to the girl, and only during smoke breaks. Afterwards, she preferred another person to my communication.
Now I work for another agency. It's been about 4 months now... needless to say, I can't make friends with anyone here again? I sit in a corner and sometimes people don’t pay attention to me. Sometimes they come to say hello to everyone, but after 5 minutes they only greet me with the words: “Oh, sorry! I didn’t notice you!” Oh, how unpleasant this is.
We have a group of young guys, 40 people. I am sitting in one room with 8 people. Almost all of them greet each other with a “high five” with their palms, both girls and boys. And the picture usually in the morning is like this: “High five!” They greet everyone with their palms, but to me they just say: “Hello!”
Today I decided to write about this because I was upset by the situation that it turns out the guys are communicating with each other on Skype in a group in which I am not. They just don't think it's worth adding me to this group. To my question: “Oh, what kind of group is this?” Everyone lowered their eyes and laughed it off.
Because of this, I feel very constrained among new people, I somehow withdraw and am afraid to communicate with them. Sometimes I simply don’t know what to talk about with new people and I look at them in fear. When they ask me about something, I am so scared of new communication that I talk some kind of nonsense. I also think that it is difficult for me to convey my thoughts to people. This can't help but be frustrating because I'm 23 years old and have trouble communicating with people. Those with whom I am close - my sister, for example, she says that I don’t let people get close to me, I don’t consider it necessary to open up to them right away. But I feel everything differently! I’m unhappy because they don’t want to communicate with me, I want to communicate with the guys. I don’t know what to do so that I don’t build walls and barriers to communicating with people, because I consider sociability and sociality to be an important part of my life. But I don't have this life. Please advise what should I do?
Briefly about myself: I am a very beautiful girl. I have a good figure, I consider myself quite smart and understanding. I dress well and I have no problems with smell or behavior.
