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The role of the family in human life
- The family has always occupied one of the most important places among the values of human life. This is understandable, since all people at different stages of their lives are somehow connected with the family, it is a natural part of this life. It is important for every person to have a family, a home. The family is a fortress, salvation from difficulties, protection from a cruel world. A strong family gives warmth, comfort, tranquility. After all, at home we are surrounded by relatives who love us, understand us, and always try to help. Happy is he who was born and raised in a friendly family.
Why is a family needed?
The most important people in life are dad and mom, who gave life. Under the parental wing, we spend childhood and youth - the most wonderful time in life. This is the time of knowledge, exploration of the world. The family first of all forms the worldview of a new person. After all, a family is a model of the world within an apartment. This is where personality formation begins. We follow the relationship of parents, their conversations, their hobbies. Mom and dad are the first and main role models for us. They educate us, pass on their life experience, family traditions. It depends on the climate that prevails in the family, on how comfortable and joyful the house is, what the child will be interested in. In dysfunctional families, children seek understanding not within the walls of the house, but on the street with strangers. The world is very cruel. A good family is protection from cruelty. How often, already adults, having our own families, in the turmoil of days, we forget to call our parents, take care of our health, visit! And they seem to understand everything and forgive us for inattention.
Starting a family is easy. To make a decision for two people to live under one roof, a declaration of love is enough. Of course, love for each other should reign in the family. But you also need understanding, patience, respect, willingness to listen and help. You need to be ready to sacrifice your time and desires for the sake of your family. It is necessary to feel responsibility to loved ones, to give them your attention.
A family can become truly strong when it passes the test of time. Life is never cloudless. Joys are replaced by sorrows, hopes are sometimes justified, but often end in disappointments. And every family is tested for strength. In a real family, problems are solved together, troubles are transferred together. The house where sincerity, fidelity, unanimity lives, where a strong shoulder is felt, is strong and reliable. Time only strengthens it.
In addition to family, there are other values that fill our lives: work, friends, hobbies, politics. But it seems to me that nothing can replace families. Time spent with loved ones is invaluable.
In Russian classical literature, L. N. Tolstoy worked a lot on the theme of the family. One of the main ones is in the epic novel "War and Peace". Drawing a peaceful life, the writer describes the Rostov family with great warmth. Here they openly rejoice and openly cry, openly fall in love and all together experience the love dramas of everyone. Their hospitality is famous throughout Moscow, they are ready to accept and caress anyone: in the family. According to Tolstoy, it is the woman who creates the family hearth. She raises children, all her life she creates that House, which becomes her main world, a reliable and calm rear for her husband and the source of everything for the younger generation. She establishes the dominant system in the house moral values, she spins threads that connect all members of her family. The ideal of such a woman for a writer is Natasha Rostova.
The novel "Anna Karenina" is devoted to the problems of family and marriage. The theme of the family, put forward at the beginning, turned out to be interconnected with public, social, philosophical issues - the work gradually grew into a major social novel, in which the writer reflected his contemporary life. Tolstoy passed a harsh sentence on society with its deceitful hypocritical morality, which drove Anna to suicide. In this society, there is no place for sincere feelings, but only established rules that can be circumvented, but hiding, deceiving everyone and yourself. sincere, loving person society rejects like a foreign body. Tolstoy condemns such a society and the laws established by it.
Thus, every person should have a family. Neither money nor power will give us selfless love, will not heal spiritual wounds, will not save us from loneliness, will not bring true happiness. - "Family" is a word we hear every day, from the very early childhood. Most children are lucky to be born in a family where there is a mother and father. Someone was brought up with only one parent - mom or dad, in an "incomplete" family. Some of the children, alas, were completely deprived of their families, their parents were replaced by educators and nannies orphanage…
Why does it happen that children are abandoned by their own parents? Why are divorces between young people so common? Why does the word "family" have no great significance or value in modern society? People have forgotten so much that they can be children and parents, that it is necessary to continue the human race, that this has become a state, nationwide problem. No wonder V. Putin declared 2008 the Year of the Family.
What does this term “family” mean? In the Explanatory Dictionary we find the definition: "Family: a group of close relatives living together." In addition, there is also such a definition: "an association of people united by common interests." So, "family" is close relatives who live together and who are united by common interests. What are these interests? Only material ones? I think not. Or rather, in the first place, no, if we are talking about about real family.
In a “real” family, the most important unifying principle is love, the love of people for each other. And if people love each other, then they accept their relatives as they are, accept and wish them well. In a real family, they will always accept and listen, they will always forgive and try to understand.
A real family is your true home, where you can always return, after any failure, any shock, any grief. And only here, at Home, you can fully recover, again believe in people and in a benevolent world. And this will happen thanks to your family, who will love you no matter what.
An example real family in Russian literature for me is the Rostov family from Leo Tolstoy's novel "War and Peace". In general, in all his works, this writer talked about his family, about the relationship between his relatives.
Interestingly, psychologists believe that the atmosphere of the "Tolstoy" family is ideal. The writer embodied such an “ideal” family in the image of the Rostov family. Let us recall at least the episode in which the old count gives money to Nikolai Rostov, who lost a large amount. And this despite the fact that the family was heavily in debt and the old Rostov donated almost the last. But such was the strength of the count's love for his unlucky son that he unquestioningly saves his son from dishonor and a debt hole, without saying anything to the old countess, so as not to extradite his son and not upset his wife.
Unfortunately, the value of a strong real family is now relegated to the background. I think that somewhere in the subconscious, the family is still very important, especially for women. But other, more material, values - money, career, success - do not allow you to fully focus on the family. It is often postponed until later. It's good when already mature people still decide to get married, have children. Then they already consciously and responsibly approach this issue, and it is likely that their family will be happy and harmonious.
But it also happens that in pursuit of the material and external, people forget about something very important. And at the end of their lives, they realize that this was important for their family, children. They realize that they have lost their continuation, they have lost the opportunity to give new life and thereby prolong their lives. And this is scary, especially when awareness comes too late.
In addition, now, it seems to me, young people are afraid or simply do not want to take responsibility. After all, starting a family, officially entering into marriage with someone, you take responsibility for yourself and for another person. And this is often difficult, unpleasant, scary, in the end. Doesn't such fear speak of the infantilism of today's young people? I think that's how it is for the most part.
Now the official marriage is being replaced by the so-called “civil” marriage. That is, people live together, run a joint household, but in the face of the state they are not husband and wife. It is believed that under such conditions it is easier to disperse, if suddenly “they didn’t get along”, so there are fewer obligations to another person. I don't know how correct this is. I only know that children living in such a “civilian” family feel insecure and anxious. They lack a sense of stability, they are not sure that mom and dad will always be there, as is typical for children from "official" families.
In addition, there is still such a thing as "shame in front of people." And although this argument is now becoming less and less significant, for some people it is weighty. Of course, in the 19th century, the opinion of the society in which you moved was very important, if not decisive. It was this, in many ways, that made Anna Karenina's life unbearable after she left her family for Vronsky. You will say that the decisive factor in the suicide of the heroine was her internal crisis, shame, her sense of sinfulness. But it, in my opinion, was largely imposed from the outside, inspired by society.
Is it good or bad? Of course, you should not start a family only under the pressure of social principles. But to listen to what your ancestors passed on as an eternal value from generation to generation, I think, is still worth it.
Personally, I consider family an unshakable value. Times, eras, rulers, standards and ideals are changing. Only the family always remains an indisputable value, because it is the continuation of the family, "native blood", unconditional support and acceptance, love. The family is the roots, it is the foundation, it is the House, without which the life of no person is unthinkable, no matter what era it exists. - What do we usually understand by the word family? When we say “family”, images of people dear and close to our hearts arise in our minds, helping in a difficult moment, taking care of you. Why is family so important to a person? Why does he feel lost and hurt when he loses his family? He loses not only support and support, but loses
As one classic said, love for the motherland begins with the family. And this is an absolutely true statement, since it is in the family that we get the first skills to communicate with society. The family is a small cell of society, which is of great importance in the social development of every person. Let's talk in more detail about such a topic as the role of the family in a person's life.
The role of the family in socialization.
Agree, it is the family that is the first society that we encounter in our lives. it is of great importance, since a small person, through communication with mom and dad, gains skills on how to communicate with the whole society in the future. As a rule, what we take out of the family haunts us later for the rest of our lives. The role of the family in a person's life is also very important, since we spend our first years in it, when all life values and priorities are being laid. We also get the first experience of how to behave in the company of other people. Since man is a social being, the role of the family in human life cannot be underestimated.
That is why the first three years of a child's life should be spent in the family, or surrounded by people who have taken the role of this person's family. For example, in many dysfunctional families, grandparents or siblings take on the role of parents. These people replace the child with a family and give him warmth and care. It is worth noting that the role of the family is very important because it can instill in the child not only positive foundations, but also negative ones. From what kind of relationship a person has developed in the family, his requirements and expectations from the world as a whole and future life depend.
Today there is such a situation that parents to some extent stepped back from the process of education. The technological revolution and the acceleration of the way of life have made an important role in it. Many parents who have chosen a busy lifestyle very early begin to give their children to be raised in the hands of nannies, grandparents, or to a kindergarten where a teacher looks after the child. Mobile phones, tablets, computers and cartoons - that's what currently occupies a major place in the life and development of many children. And few people know about the impact of cartoons on children.
As a rule, this leads to the fact that the child gradually withdraws from people and society as a whole, and becomes lonely. Virtual reality now replaces his communication with parents and relatives. According to researchers, the modern family has undergone some changes, and, consequently, society as a whole is gradually changing. Surely, many people know that the number of divorces has increased in recent years. As a result, there are more families where there is incomplete upbringing by one parent. The birth rate is declining, but at the same time, more and more children began to be born in a family where there is one parent. As often happens, it becomes the mother.
The role of the family in a child's life.
Psychologists have identified the main models of education that are present in modern families:
Dictatorship is a family model where parents suppress any personal manifestations of the child. parents raise their children the way they think a person should “look like”. It can be compared to tree branches. When they begin to deviate to the side, the gardener ruthlessly cuts off any shoots.
Cooperation. In our opinion, this is the most correct family model, where the child is brought up in an environment where there is a joint development and pastime with parents.
Guardianship. The role of the family in human life thus acquires a dual orientation. As a rule, parents who have surrounded their child with overprotection are trying to protect him from the "dirt" of the outside world. Subsequently, this can cause as such a development option, when a child, having entered this very society, realizes that he is absolutely not adapted to life in it, or, on the contrary, tries with all his might to “taste” all the dirt that he was so scared of from childhood.
Non-intervention. Parents in this family believe that if they do not interfere in the affairs and problems of their child, they will make him more independent and prepared for life in society.
Whatever method of raising a child you choose, you need to understand that children come into our lives not for us to teach them something, but, on the contrary, in order to show us all our internal problems and contradictions, but also teach the principles of goodness and humanity. Remember that the role of the family in the life of every person is huge, and you should never forget about it.
Family is a part of every person's life. It occupies the most important place among the values of human life. Family is a big force. Only she is a reliable protection against all life's troubles. A strong family gives warmth, comfort, confidence in a bright future. After all, at home we are surrounded by relatives who love us, understand us, and always try to help. Happy is he who was born and raised in a friendly family. It is this problem, the great importance of the family in human life, that K. G. Paustovsky raises in his work.
Discussing this topic, the narrator describes the life of the inhabitants of his house. The author draws our attention to the fact that there were many animals and objects in this house, but “the most unusual inhabitant in the house was a frog!” Paustovsky emphasizes that despite the fact that frogs, by their nature, must live in dampness, this one liked it in the house.
“She had to be tickled with a stick so that she woke up and went to her place…”. The publicist notes that even dandelions bloomed on the porch of this house, thereby leading us to the conclusion that everything was drawn to this cozy house, in which everyone could be considered members of a large family.
I fully agree with the opinion of the publicist and also believe that a family endowed with warmth, mutual understanding and comfort is the key to happiness in life.
Many literary works deal with the problem of the family. I am reminded of Leo Tolstoy's War and Peace. Talking about different families, the writer describes the Rostov family with great warmth. In this family, they sincerely rejoice and sincerely cry, openly fall in love and all together experience the love dramas of each family member. This family is always ready to hospitably accept any person. It is pleasant to be in their house, there is peace of mind, as happiness and love reign in their family.
Recall the family of Ilya Oblomov from Goncharov's novel. The Oblomov family was large, many relatives lived in their house. There was a warm, friendly atmosphere in this family. Ilya was loved and caressed by all relatives. All family members lived a sleepy, lazy and quiet life. They didn't like to work. In this family, they rarely felt sad and thought about life. Everyone lived happily and carefree. The Oblomov family lived in laziness and apathy. But they loved this apathy. They filled an apathetic life with holidays and rituals. It can be concluded that all families are different, everyone has different laws in the family, different lifestyles, but the most important thing is the family hearth. The main thing lies in happiness, which should be in every family.
In conclusion, I emphasize once again that the family is a support in the life of every person and all living things that surround him. And if love and mutual understanding reign in the family, people will be able to overcome and win all the troubles and bad weather in life!
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Family is of great importance in our life. For each person, this concept is individual. Someone thinks that the family is those people around whom you grew up - parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters. For some, the family is what you create yourself - husband, wife and children. I want to talk about what family means to me.
I think that both of these definitions are correct, they just need to be combined. Of course, the family for each person is his close people. Our parents gave us life, our grandparents took an active part in our upbringing, our uncle and aunt spoiled us from childhood, and we shared our innermost things with our brothers and sisters. At a more mature age, almost each of us finds a person with whom he wants to go through life, with whom he wants to raise children. And it will be a family that people choose themselves. We fall in love, get married, become parents, and thus create our own unit of society. For me, the family is both the one in which you were born and the one you created.
The family for each person is a support and support. We must appreciate every moment spent with our loved ones, because we have no one dearer than them. In Hector's Journey or the Quest for Happiness, François Lelord told the story of a woman who had cancer. The protagonist of the work asked her what is the greatest and real happiness for her. She replied: "The happiness of my son." She did not say that the most important thing for her is to be cured of cancer, for her the priority is the happiness of her son. I believe that a real family is when the happiness of your loved one is more important to you than your own. No matter how rich I am, no matter how healthy I am, I can never be happy if someone close to me is unhappy.
Of course, balance is important in life. It would be desirable if we lived in abundance, never got sick and our families were strong. But if it is necessary to prioritize, then for me there is nothing more important than family. We can work endlessly to buy a luxury apartment in the city center, a prestigious car and a bunch of expensive clothes, but is it really more important than the smile of a loved one?
To be honest, I find it hard to understand people who dedicate their lives to a career. Some of them do not even start their own families, they are so mired in these gray everyday life, and they have only two goals in life - career growth and money. I've always wondered how these people feel when they return home to an empty apartment?
Family comes first in my life. I adore my parents. I am extremely grateful to them for the fact that they give me a lot of their time. I am glad that we have a very trusting relationship with both mom and dad. Family motivates me to a certain extent. I really want to study well so that my parents can be proud of me. And of course, I want to start my own family. I want to come home from work to a cozy home where my beloved wife and joyful children will be waiting for me. I want to make them happy. And that makes sense to me.
From time immemorial, the family has given a person the most necessary things in life: love, protection, knowledge about the world around. She helped not only to be born and grow up, but also supported a person throughout his life. In the old days without a family it was impossible to imagine even a physical existence. No wonder folk wisdom says: "One in the field is not a warrior." However, even today people try to stick together, despite the many difficulties that arise from this. Why the family is so important for every person to this day, what functions it performs and what the well-being of the family depends on - we will consider these questions further.
The family, like any complex organism, has its own stages of existence - it is born, develops and dies. Each of the stages through which the family passes is characterized by its own specifics and certain difficulties that need to be addressed. For example, at the stage of the birth of a child, a married couple has new, unusual roles of parents. There is an acute question of combining a child and a career. Also, if there are certain problems at the previous stage, the child can become an additional element for manipulating parents with each other. Untimely or inadequate resolution of problems arising at each stage can lead not only to a deterioration in family relations and frequent quarrels, but also to the collapse of the entire system - i.e. to divorce.
Despite the difficulties that arise, the family serves as a source of satisfaction for a variety of human needs. Thanks to the family, each person can organize his time - life, work, leisure - in the most optimal way. Joint rest gives new strength and fills the need for communication. The division of responsibilities in the family contributes to a better and faster execution of household chores. A joint budget makes it possible to spend money more rationally. Also, the family has a great influence on the behavior of a person and his choice. Many achievements became possible precisely because the anticipation of pride in the father's eyes or the admiration of the wife helped their authors to cope with the difficulties that awaited them on the way to the goal. The most important function of the family to this day is the birth and upbringing of the child. However, today many parents are torn between their responsibilities for raising children and the desire for creative fulfillment and professional growth. The decision to have a baby in today's world is the result of careful planning and much thought. The children that appear at the same time are mostly desired and long-awaited, parents want to spend as much time with them as possible. As a result of such a discrepancy between desires and opportunities, parents are increasingly in a state of time pressure, they develop dissatisfaction with themselves, irritability, which they vent on the very children for whose benefit their efforts are directed. However, studies by psychologists and sociologists show that even very busy but loving parents can give enough love and warmth to their children. It is not so much the quantity of communication that matters, but its quality. Here we can note another important function of the family - the function of emotional support, psychological protection and spiritual communication.
In order to fully perform all its functions, and not become another source of stress, as unfortunately often happens, the family must have a number of qualities, 
providing the most harmonious existence. What are the signs of a harmonious family? Firstly, all members of such a family should not only listen, but also hear each other. In disputes that arise, everyone's opinion should be taken into account. Secondly, such a family is characterized by mutual assistance and orientation towards the development of all its members. It is also worth noting the orientation towards joint activities, at least as elementary as common eating, and similar interests and hobbies, which are based on a common system of values. In addition, in a harmonious family, each member should have an adequately high self-esteem, a sense of humor, the ability to joke with each other, and there should be trust and goodwill in relations between members of such a family. And finally, being a harmonious family does not mean not having problems. On the contrary, everyone can have problems. Their complete absence may speak more about emotional distance than about well-being. The difference between a harmonious family lies precisely in the fact that, if necessary, it easily seeks help.
Thus, the system that the family represents is very fragile - a violation or change in any of its components directly affects the entire system as a whole. After all, any family system is made up of many parts - the personalities of each of its members, the characteristics of those families where they come from, relationships, shared experiences, decisions made, and much, much more. Not without reason, it is the family that often makes a person deeply unhappy. Behind many of the life problems of a person are the problems of his family. However, we should not forget that the difficulties in the life of each person, the peculiarities of his character, his needs and hobbies also affect the whole family and, last but not least, the well-being of our family depends on us.
What is a family for you? What does your family give you? And how do you deal with the difficulties that arise in the family?
